How-To

How to Put Yourself First Over the Holidays!

Thu, 15 Nov 2012 23:19:00 GMT

5 Guilt-Free Tips to a Saner You

by Rachel Venning

Reward yourself for good deeds. For example for every two items you check off your to-do list, treat yourself to a date with your vibrator.
Trade up your indulgences. Instead of that fifth glass of eggnog, or the 12th candy cane, promise yourself 15 minutes with your favorite book or TV show.
Reprioritize your gift list. Cashmere sweaters are nice, but when someone asks you waht you want, how about asking for some experiential treats instead, like a romantic date from your mate, or ask for babysitting from a niece or nephew so you can go out.
Schedule some downtime. Just say no to that last store, and get yourself home to a hot bubble bath. If you schedule this on your calendar you won’t be lying when you leave the office party early “for other plans.”
Let music make your mood, not break it!. If you start to develop an allergic reaction to mall Christmas music, replace it with music you like! Stash headphones in your pocket or purse along with your iPhone or MP3 player and you can tune out the chaos, and tune into the songs that make you happy.

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How to Use a Vibrator

Tue, 13 Mar 2012 17:05:00 GMT

Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm — and the powerful, consistent stimulation of a vibrator delivers like nothing else can. For those unfamiliar with the delicious buzz of vibration, these pleasure-providing sex toys can be a little daunting. Before you buy, check out our How to Choose a Vibrator guide for great tips on choosing the sex toy that's right for you. Once you've got your vibrator of choice in hand, it's time for the fun to begin.

First, set the mood. Give yourself a block of time to play with your new toy, put in some relaxing music. You might feel more comfortable using a vibrator alone for the first time, so you can get used to your body's response without having to think about a partner at the same time.
Run it along your body. No need to rush to the clitoris with that new vibe. Get used to the feeling first by running it over your body—try it on your nipples, thighs and or anywhere you're inspired to explore.
Add the clit. When you're feeling turned on, try holding the vibrator against your clit. Some women find the vibrations intense the first few times; if this is true for you place a towel between you and your toy or use it over your underwear.
Experiment with your sex toy. Vary the pressure, the speed, or the position of the vibrator to discover what feels the best to you. The clitoris has about a jillion nerve endings (okay, more like 4,000), and is often most responsive to vibration. Any vibrator, even those long skinny ones that look great for penetration, can be used on the clit. You might find that as you get more warmed up, you like more intense stimulation. But by all means, try that toy anywhere that feels good.

Add extras. If you really like G-spot play or vaginal penetration combined with clit stimulation, try one of our Dual Action Vibes (Rabbit Vibrators). If your toy has a flared base, like the Vibrating Mistress, throw a condom on it and try it for anal penetration — vibration is great for relaxing anal muscles. And though the vaginal walls aren't as sensitive to vibration as the clit, your vibrator is sure to double as a dildo, especially if you choose a toy made of a soft material.

'Don't Give Up' Tips

A drop or two of lube, like BabeLube, will make your vibrator forays deliciously slippery.
Men like vibes, too! Try sharing a sex toy like the We-Vibe II, or snuggling up to the Duet Vibrating Cock Ring.
If sharing your sex toy, using it anally, or just to make cleanup easier, slide a condom on it first.
Clean your vibrator with soap and water after use.
Harder vibrators, like the Slimlines, and electric vibrators, like the Hitachi Magic Wand, usually have stronger vibrations than toys made of softer materials.

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How to Have an Orgasm

Mon, 12 Mar 2012 15:47:00 GMT

Science tells us that orgasms are the involuntary muscle spasms that come with the release of sexual tension. This stark definition does not even hint at the variety of orgasmic experiences available to the willing pleasure seeker. With a little persistence and a lot of openness, each of us can tap into our own orgasmic potential.

Orgasms range in intensity from a sweet ripple of pleasure around the genitals to a roaring, curling wave of energy through the entire body. Every orgasm is a duet of tension and relaxation: a combination of striving and letting go, of making it happen and letting it happen.

Many women have trouble achieving orgasm, or are unsure whether they have orgasms. If you have never had an orgasm, or want to experience stronger orgasms, here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Get to know your genitals! Looking at and developing an appreciation of one's own pussy can help liberate us from sexual shame. To identify an orgasm, get to know those muscles! Flex your PC muscles by pretending to stop the flow of urine. You are tightening and releasing the same muscles that involuntarily contract and release when you come.
Prioritize your own self-pleasure. Set aside time to masturbate on a regular basis. No one can do this for you! Masturbating teaches us how we like to be touched and what gets our juices flowing, whether it leads to orgasm or not. Practicing getting aroused is the surest way to learn techniques that can help break new sexual ground, both alone and with a partner. Masturbating builds sexual confidence. If you need some encouragement, try a book like Sex for One, or if you need inspiration, try reading some erotica.
Relax. Overall relaxation helps in the beginning—you are looking to build up sexual tension, so set aside the tensions of daily life. Banish thoughts about the dishes in the sink or job stress with our Jimmyjane Contour Massage Stones. Take a warm bath and try one of our relaxing bath products or do whatever you need to do to feel completely at ease. This will help you be present in your body and attentive to its responses.
Try masturbating at different times of the day. If you try coming only at night, after a long, stressful day and two stiff drinks, you are less likely to get to know the nuances of your desires. You can throw a small toy like the Babeland Silver Bullet in your briefcase and slip away from work for a mid-day romp.
Get turned on! Explore your erotic mind by reading sexy fiction, watching explicit movies or writing a fantasy of your own. If you're new to adult films, try one by a female director. Ask yourself, "What makes me wet?" Revel and indulge in the answer.
Experiment. Try rubbing your clit using different motions: stop and start, left and right, around the clock. Pay attention to what feels good and do more of that.
Breathe. Take deep breaths so you can move the sexual energy throughout your body. You can also help further your arousal by breathing deeply, rather than holding your breath as you get closer to coming.
Add a vibrator. Sometimes a vibrator can carry on where a tired hand or tongue cannot. The steady buzz of a good vibrator on or around the clitoris can solve one common problem—insufficient clitoral stimulation. The Hitachi Magic Wand, Rabbit Habit, and Jimmyjane Form 2 are three of our favorites for powerful and varied stimulation.
Make noise. Don't be afraid to move, rock, grunt, scream, and cry during sex. You are seeking total release, so get used to reactions you might have when you lose control. Be silly! Be loud! Let yourself go.
Tease yourself. When you hit a plateau of sexual tension, back away from it, breathe deeply, then start again. The sexual energy can build in cycles, each more intense than the last. Take your time and remember to keep breathing. Consistent, deep breathing helps with relaxation—holding your breath can forestall coming.

Orgasms: You Deserve Many

Sex negativity in our culture, especially toward women, can inhibit our growth as sexual beings and our understanding of our own sexual response. Fortunately, we have the freedom to question what we have been taught about sex, and to heal the wounds we uncover as we explore our desires. There are lots of places to go for encouragement on the road to sexual fulfillment. Betty Dodson's original masturbation manifesto Sex For One continues to school women in sexual self-awareness and satisfaction. Our own guide, Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex can help lead you to orgasmic bliss by yourself, with a partner, and/or with the help of a sex toy. To help heal the wounds of sexual abuse, we strongly recommend Staci Haines' Healing Sex. When we choose to open up to our own sexuality throughout our lives, there is no limit to the growth we can experience and the pleasure we can find.

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How to Find Your G-spot

Sun, 11 Mar 2012 15:47:00 GMT

It's not a myth, despite what you may have heard — the G-spot exists, and it loves attention! "G-spot" is the common name for a spot on the front of the vaginal wall through which you can stimulate the urethral sponge, an area of spongy tissue surrounding the urethra. All female-bodied people have a G-spot, but not all respond to G-spot stimulation in the same way. The only way to figure out if you like G-spot stimulation is to start exploring; locating and stimulating the G-spot can lead to orgasm and even ejaculation for many women, and the right sex toy can be indispensable on that journey.

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Find it. The G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina towards the belly, right behind the pubic bone; it corresponds to spongy tissue that is wrapped around the urethra. When women are aroused the tissue becomes thickened and can be felt through the vaginal wall. It creates an intense, distinctive sensation when stimulated. For some women, this feeling is similar to the sensation of needing to urinate; if it makes you feel more comfortable, pee before starting your explorations. And for some, stimulation of the G-spot can make them ejaculate.
Turn yourself on. The first step is to get turned on. During arousal, the spongy tissue swells with fluid. When you aren't turned on, the wall of the vagina feels fairly similar all the way around, but when you get aroused the G-spot becomes more firm with blood and other fluids. Grab a vibrator (try the Laya Spot), your favorite sexy movie (check out the ever-popular Pirates), or indulge in a hot fantasy.
Add a finger or toy. Now, insert your finger into your vagina and curve your finger up towards your belly. For more length, try a curved sex toy. The Pure Wand is designed for women to reach their own G-spots.
Firm strokes. You'll know when you hit the G-spot by the distinctive sensation it creates. Remember, you aren't feeling for something on the surface of the vaginal wall; the urethral sponge is behind it, so you'll need to press. The texture of the G-spot feels somewhat bumpy or crinkly; it's noticeably different than the smooth walls of the vagina. Press firmly and stroke your fingers towards your palm (move them in a "come hither" way). The Ella dildo has an easy handle and perfect curve for hooking into your G-spot — try various degrees of pressure and a range of motions.
Experiment. There is no single "right" technique to find the the G-spot. The size and sensitivity of the G-spot varies a lot; you'll just have to experiment. Some like rhythmic pressure on the G-spot from a curved toy like the Candy Colored Glass Dildo, others like the swooping motion of fingers or a twisting vibrator like the Rabbit Habit. Others really like to have their clitoris stimulated at the same time that their G-spot is stroked. A partner's fingers stroking the G-spot during cunnilingus can feel simply divine. A multi-function toy nudges the G-spot and rubs the clitoris at the same time.
Ejaculate (or not)! Pressure on the G-Spot or the contractions of orgasm can cause female ejaculation from the urethral sponge through the urethra. This fluid is different from urine and similar to men's prostatic fluid. Empty your bladder before sex, so you won't worry about peeing. Ejaculate quantity will probably be less than a teaspoon or two, but sometimes it can be copious. Objects in the vagina may block the uretha, thus preventing ejaculation. Some women ejaculate after the penis, dildo or fingers is removed. While not every woman ejaculates, female ejaculation is not uncommon, and it's perfectly normal (and can feel great!).
Partners and sexual positions. During partner sex there are some positions that are more conducive for hitting the G-Spot than others. Think geometry. Unless your partner has a curved dildo or penis, it's the cervix, not the G-spot, that will most likely be stimulated in the standard missionary pose. Doggy style, or the receptive partner receiving a dildo or penis from behind, puts the G-spot in the bullseye a bit better. You can lift your upper body by supporting your hands against a wall or bed, or with the use of "sex furniture" like the Love Bumper, and create a more angled approach to the vagina. Many women find that if they are on top, they can control penetration for better G-spot stimulation.

G-spot response varies dramatically: remember, there's no one right way to experience pleasure. Rather than turning your explorations into a task or new goal you must achieve, try to approach it with a sense of fun and enjoy all the sensations along the way. Happy sex adventures!

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How to Stimulate the Prostate Gland

Sun, 11 Mar 2012 10:21:00 GMT

One of our favorite things to do here at Babeland is to help men and their partners discover the pleasures of the prostate gland (or the P-Spot). Aptly called "the male G-Spot" because of its ability to produce earth-shattering orgasms, the prostate is helping men of all ages and orientations take sexual satisfaction to new depths.

A New Approach

Go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back for exploring the "P-Spot" (shorthand for the prostate). Stimulating the P-Spot involves anal play, so some folks are reluctant to try it because of cultural attitudes that paint it as "taboo" behavior. But if there's one thing we know as pleasure advocates, it's that all kinds of people enjoy all kinds of sex. Anal sex involves some of the most pleasurable sexual sensations that men and women, gay or straight, can experience. Everyone has an asshole, but men's assholes are extra-special because of the presence of the prostate gland!

Toys For Boys

An abundance of anal sex toys await you to help you discover the kind of P-Spot stimulation you like best. When shopping for a potential P-Spot toy, keep in mind that many G-Spot toys also make good prostate toys, and that a curve toward the tip is the key feature to look for.

	If you like pressure on your prostate, check out the Pandora. This smooth, soft silicone vibe slips easy into the anal canal and has a curved tip that's perfect for hitting the P-spot. Add a little extra oomph by turning on the vibration.	Pandora
	The Aneros Plug is Babeland's most popular P-Spot toy and is designed to stimulate the prostate both internally via the plug, and externally via pressure on the perineum. It stays put all by itself and provides excellent prostate massage. Because of its ability to prolong erection and stave off ejaculation, the Aneros is a must-have for men who are learning to become multi-orgasmic.	Aneros
	For vibrating fun, try the Naughty Boy. Made of easy-to-clean, heat-retaining silicone, this simultaneous prostate-and-perineum-stimulating toy comes with a removable vibrator.	Naughty Boy
	For couples interested in "pegging" (one partner wears a harness and dildo and anally penetrates the other), check out the Bend Over Beginner Kit, along with our own How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend tips. She'll look and feel great wearing the velvety harness, the small wireless vibrator, and one of the two silicone dildos.	Bend Over Beginner Kit

Getting Started

Go it Alone. We recommend that you fly solo for your initial prostate probe, so you are in total control of the pace and depth of your explorations.
Relax and clean up. A warm shower with some added soapy attention to your butthole is a great way to relax and get into your body. It can also help lessen any apprehensions you may have about encountering feces, as will the use of a glove.
Add lubricant. Once you’re ready, a nice thick lubricant like Maximus or BabeLube and smooth fingernails are musts for successful prostate stimulation. Since the anus does not self-lubricate, you’ll want to use generous amounts of lube.
Easy does it. With lube on your fingertip and your anus, press gently on your anus with the pad of your finger as you push out (as if you were going to the bathroom). Your sphincter muscles will relax, and your finger should pop in.
Explore. Once inside, curve your finger toward your belly button, and feel for a textured, ridged area about two to three inches inside. Some folks liken the feel of the prostate to that of the surface of a walnut.
Experiment. Prostates enjoy a variety of sensations from firm pressure to rhythmic movement to vibrations, so try some different movements until you find your favorite.
Add toys. Butt plugs and smooth dildos feel great on the prostate and can be easier to maneuver than your hand, so check out these toys on the Babeland site or read on for more specific suggestions.
Add partners. Once you know what you like, it'll be that much easier to show your lover how to please you!

An Orgasm a Day!

An Australian study (the results of which were published in the August 2003 issue of the British Journal of Urology) concluded that men who masturbate on a regular basis between the ages of 20 and 50 are less likely to develop prostate cancer later in life. In fact, men who masturbate to ejaculation more than five times per week are a third less likely to develop the disease. Since prostate fluid can store carcinogens in addition to good things like potassium and zinc, regular ejaculation has a cleansing effect, since it's flushing out the bad and replacing it with the good. Just one more reason to take your pleasure into your own hands! For additional male-centered sex tips and information, check out our full selection of sex books.

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How to Use the Fleshlight

Sun, 11 Mar 2012 00:06:00 GMT

The Fleshlight is hands-down (forgive the pun) among the most popular male sex toys on the market. Made of an incredibly lifelike material called Reel Feel Super Skin, this penis sleeve is the next best thing to being there. Use these handy tips to get the most out of your Fleshlight adventures.

Wash and Warm Up Your Fleshlight

The Fleshlight is made of a soft, realistic-feeling sleeve nestled in a hard plastic casing that looks like a big flashlight (hence the name!). First, unscrew the top and take the soft sleeve out of its plastic holder.
Wash the sleeve with a mild, oil-free soap and hot water; this will make it nice and warm.
Shake it to remove excess water, and put it back into the casing.

Lube Up Your Fleshlight

Once you've got your Fleshlight warmed up, find a nice water-based lube like BabeLube. (Don't use a silicone-based lube; this will cause a chemical reaction and melt the Fleshlight.)
Put some lube on your hand and rub it inside the Fleshlight (it's like finger fucking!).
Now that your hand is covered in lube, slather your penis as well, giving yourself a nice hand job until you're erect. If you're going to use a condom, now's a good time to put it on. (It makes for easy clean up, but can diminish the lifelike feel of the material).
Keep a towel nearby to wipe the lube off your hands, or to get a better grip on the Fleshlight.

Get Down with Your Bad Self!

Slip your dick in the penis sleeve and have at it!
It's large, so you'll probably need to use a hand on each side of the plastic container.
Try holding the Fleshlight's case in place and thrusting, or moving the toy itself back and forth over your penis. Or, try wedging the casing under your mattress with the opening visible, so you can fuck hands-free.
If you adjust the tightness of the end cap, you can create a suction that feels great on your penis.
If you're feeling adventurous, we highly recommend adding vibration to the mix by trying the Fleshlight Vibro — the teasing vibrations will prove to you that vibrators aren't just for women.
This is a great opportunity to learn more about pleasing your partner — practice kissing, rimming, and cunnilingus skills on the Fleshlight.
Move with it! Try all those positions you've been dying to, and have a great orgasm. We've heard from men who clamp it to their desks so they can get off hands-free while cybersexing on their computer.

Wash and Store the Fleshlight

Remove the insert and wash it with mild, oil-free soap and water. Let it dry completely.
Store the sleeve in a plastic bag with cornstarch; this will prevent it from getting sticky.
Put the sleeve back in the plastic Fleshlight container.

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How to Give a Blow Job: Become a Fellatio Expert

Sat, 10 Mar 2012 19:27:00 GMT

by Kiley Oram

Giving a great blow job is easy, not to mention sexy and fun for both giver and receiver. Fellatio is a versatile sex act, too — you can do it almost anywhere!

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Be prepared with some sexy goods. Have the Blow Job Expert Kit on hand and you'll find that the BabeLicious flavored lubricant, lickable oil, and accompanying vibrator will help tranform you from a novice into an oral sex master. (Plus you save 25% when you purchase all the toys together!)
Study up. In addition to these blow job techniques, you'll find great oral sex tips in the DVD Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Fellatio and in the book The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio.
Get comfortable. A blow job is much more fun without a sore neck. Find a position that works best for both of you, depending on where you are (you can't really lounge comfortably in an elevator, you know) and the angle of the cock you're dealing with (work with the natural downward angle of your throat). Kneel before your man with him standing if you're in a confined area, or when you want to strike a pose that's really hot. Other positions: seat your partner and crouch between their legs (slide a pillow under your knees if you're not on a soft surface), or lay down and let your partner thrust into your mouth, (harder to control the depth, but good for you lazy types). If you're in a car, your partner can lay down lengthwise in the back.
If you're using a condom, put it on now. Try a Trustex flavored condom if you don't like the taste of plain latex. A sexy way to set the scene is to use your mouth to put the condom on before you get busy.
Give us a kiss. If you're dealing with a soft penis, you don't have to wait until it's hard to start the show. Put it in your mouth when it's soft (or semi-hard) to get acquainted. Kiss it. Lick it. You can sweeten things up by applying an edible lube/gel like BabeLicious flavored lubricant or Sliquid Green Apple, which won rave reviews in Men's Health magazine.
Mouth off. Slide your lips gently over your teeth for smooth sailing. Most fellatio recipients like lots of spit, but others prefer a drier job, so check in with your partner. Asking quick yes or no questions like "want it dryer?" or "more spit?" can be helpful and hot. Despite your amazing oral sex technique, you aren't a mind-reader, so watch your partner for body language cues.
Experiment. You can do more wonderful stuff with your mouth than just suck (and remember — the harder you suck doesn't necessarily mean the better it feels). Mix it up by licking the sensitive underside of the shaft, the nerve-ending-loaded head of the penis, and the testicles. Blow softly on the moistened areas; the combination of sensations will feel incredible.
Hands-on. Give your blow job a hand. Grip the cock around the base and slide it up and down, hand-job style, in tandem with your mouth. (Some folks like a tight squeeze, while others may not, so check in.) This is great because you can cover a lot of the shaft this way without worrying about taking the whole cock in your mouth. You can concentrate on the super-sensitive head and suck as hard or softly as you and your partner like. Use lube for extra slipperiness. A silicone lube like BabeLube Silicone is great for blow jobs: it's concentrated so you only need a tiny bit, it's long-lasting so you won't need to keep stopping to reload, and it doesn't have a distracting taste or smell.
Deep throat. Deep-throating — the act of taking the entire shaft into your mouth and throat — can be cool, but you can give a perfectly stellar blow job without doing so. The key to deep throat is to relax your jaw and throat muscles as much as you can. Otherwise, you trigger the gag reflex.
Accessorize. Bring some toys into your routine. Experiment with cock rings, butt plugs, or mini vibrators (like the Fukuoku 9000 finger vibe for some attention on the testicles and perineum. Try pressing against his perineum with the flexible vibrating pad of the Jimmyjane Form 3 while you go to town with your mouth. Or try sucking on ice or a breath mint to transmit a tingly sensation to your favorite penis. Again, check in with your partner to see how experimental you should be.
Get into it. Look at your partner and the ecstacy you have caused! Make eye contact. Show your partner how much you love being down there. Moan, make appreciative noises (a well-placed "MMMM!" can make for some nice vibration, too)... let your partner know how turned on you are. Don't neglect the rest of the body, either — stroke, tickle, scratch the thighs, stomach, butt, and everywhere else you can reach.
Sucking Silicone. This applies to every cock: silicone, rubber, glass, vegetable and flesh alike. When you're dealing with a dildo, treat it like your partner can feel everything you're doing to it because they can. For more on this topic, see How to Suck Strap-on Cock.
Finish the Job. It is ultimately your choice whether or not to swallow. Your partner's diet, health, habits and frequency of ejaculation will determine the quantity and taste of the ejaculate. The ejaculate of someone who ingests lots of red meat, caffeine, alcohol or cigarettes, may taste more intense than that of a non-smoking vegetarian. The most ejaculate you might encounter is a teaspoonful or so. You have several choices if you aren't crazy about ejaculate, but don't want to hurt anyone's feelings:

take it in your mouth and discreetly deposit into a nearby towel

as your partner approaches climax, withdraw and finish with your hand

let your partner come on your body and admire the copious amounts of ejaculate

use a condom for easy cleanup

When you're totally focused on giving head, it can be a lot of fun whether it's for power play (your partner's most precious asset is at your mercy), intimacy, or the pure fun of getting someone off. Remember, you should only be performing fellatio on somebody if you're really into it and are able to focus all of your energy on what you're doing. If you're staring at the clock, waiting for it to end, or worrying about the laundry in the dryer, you won't have a good time and your partner will be able to tell you're not into it, which can be distracting, too!

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How to Go Down on a Woman

Fri, 09 Mar 2012 16:45:00 GMT

Become a Cunnilingus Expert

Cunnilingus — oral sex performed on women — is the holy grail of satisfying many women. So if you haven't honed your oral sex technique, you're most likely going to suffer some cunnilingus performance anxiety. Cultural myths about nasty vaginas just add to the pressure. But cunnilingus performed well will endear you to a partner like nothing else can. So whether you're a seasoned muffdiver or a late bloomer just getting started, here are a few oral sex tips to improve your technique.

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Be prepared with some sexy goods. Have the She Comes First Kit on hand and you'll find the Babelicious flavored lube, Babeland Nubby G, and various accoutrements (including She Comes First, by Ian Kerner) will help tranform you from a novice into an oral sex master. (Plus you save $10 when you purchase all the toys together!)
Study up. In addition to these cunnilingus techniques, you'll find great oral sex tips in the DVD Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Cunnilingus and the book The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus.
Lick her like an ice cream cone... Big soft licks from stem to stern with a wide flat tongue stimulate all the nerves in her genital area. Go deliciously slow to make her feel like a yummy dessert being savored, or speed it up a bit and focus more on the clitoris to push her toward orgasm. You can sweeten things up by applying a tasty lube like BabeLicious flavored lubricant, available in four delicious flavors.
Dive in. Build up the intensity level gradually. Once you're into it, use your whole face. Bury yourself in her pussy, get your tongue in as far as possible, use your nose for more pressure. Not only does this feel good physically, it lets her know you're really into her taste and smell. Hint: if your eyelids aren't sticky, you're not doing it right.
Insert two fingers in her vagina while licking her clit. Curl those fingers up towards your tongue, capturing her clit and G-spot between your mouth and fingers. As your tongue licks up, pull down with your fingers; get a rhythm going. Rev things up even more by slipping a G-spot dildo into her while you're going down.
Let your lover straddle your face. If lying back during cunnilingus is too passive for her, let her hop on top. From there, she can control the pressure and area of contact during oral sex. To make this position even more fun, get tied down to the bed before she mounts you using some restraints, and maybe she'll even boss you around with firm directives: "stick your tongue out," "open your mouth," "suck it, boy," and so on. Bottomy munchers will, well, lick it up.
Mix it up. If your idea of performing cunnilingus is to just lick up and down, up and down, ("fencepainting"), chances are that it'll get boring to your partner after a while. Vary your movements, add pressure, use your lips, breath and teeth in addition to your tongue, change positions, use your hands — get your whole creative body involved.
If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Most women orgasm in response to rhythmic stimulation, so if you're in a groove that's building her up, don't suddenly change what you're doing. Finding the balance between variety and consistency is the art to being an oral sex expert.
Suck her into your mouth. Gentle suction is a nice variation on the licks and downward pressure of most cunnilingus. While you've got a nice piece of her sucked in your mouth, lick it while maintaining the suction.
Lick her asshole. Use a barrier for hygiene (try Glyde Dental Dams), or if she's very clean and you don't penetrate, you may choose bare tongue on skin. The anus is rich in nerve endings, so all the varieties of oral stimulation — licking, sucking, nibbling — can feel wonderful. Ask her if she'd like to wear a butt plug like the Little Flirt for an added thrill.
Keep it wet. The juicier your make it, the better it feels. Experiment with edibles like some flavored lubricant or some lube that warms when you blow on it.
Get as good as you give! Make a gift of the Blow Job Expert Kit, and you both may get so good you'll never leave the house.

How do you know if she likes it?

With your face buried in her cunt and your ears muffled by her creamy thighs, it can be hard to talk about how things are going. So look for more subtle signs of her enjoyment. If she raises her hips to meet your mouth, that's a very good sign. A lubricating vagina, swelling vulva, and labia that spread open as they become engorged are a sure sign that she's responding favorably. So is a growing clitoris. An all over skin flush, rapid breathing, and writhing are clues. Clutching the sheets is excellent, and so are hands on the back of your head pushing you in for more.

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How To Use a Cock Ring

Thu, 08 Mar 2012 13:57:00 GMT

Many folks equate sex toys with vibrators, and vibrators with women. But men enjoy all kinds of sex toys (including vibrators) and one of the staples of their toy box is the cock ring. A great toy for solo or partner play, the cock ring (also known as a penis ring) is a strip of material or a continuous O-ring designed to restrict the blood from flowing out of the penis, which can prolong an erection. Why wear a cock ring? Lots of reasons! They temporarily create more sensitive, intense and hard erections, and can even help some men delay ejaculation. (Of course, everybody is different, and not all men respond to cock rings the same way. For some, the intense sensations caused by the cock ring make them come faster.) Will cock rings make your penis bigger? Sorry guys, but not in the long run. They may enlarge it temporarily, but repeated use of cock rings won't result in any permanent changes.

Pick a Style, Any Style

There are many kinds of cock rings, but if you're new to cock rings, you'll want to choose one that's adjustable and easy to remove.

Julian's Stud Ring

Duet Vibrating Cock Ring

Nitrile Stretch Cock Rings

14K Gold Cock Ring

Tor Vibrating Cock Ring

Adjustable cock rings. An adjustable cock ring is great for beginners because it's easy to put on and can be removed in a snap. Julian's Stud Ring works like a little bolo tie, with a bead that slides along and adjusts the tightness easily and comfortably. When you're done, just loosen and remove!
Continuous, O-ring-style cock rings. The less expensive styles like the Nitrile Cock Rings are great for first-time users. They range in size (and despite their small diameters, they do stretch a lot), and they're not too difficult to get on.
Vibrating cock rings. These offer an extra buzz to the penis or testicles, and are extremely popular for the clitoral stimulation they add for women during partner sex. They're typically rings with a small vibrating attachment, like the translucent Duet Vibrating Cock Ring (which has two vibrators — one for his balls, one for her clit) or the Sonic Ring Kit.
Firm, non-stretchy cock rings. Experienced cock ring fans can delight in rings made of metal, acrylic, or hard plastic. We love the 14K Gold Cock Ring for its elegant good looks and wonderfully effective function!

Get it On, then Get Off!

Prep your gear. If you're using a stretchy O-ring like the Nitrile Stretch Cock Rings, you might want to stretch them out over a shampoo bottle for a few hours. Masturbate or fantasize in order to perk up your penis, as cock rings are easier to put on if you're semi-erect.
Lube up. Particularly if you're using a rubber or seamless O-ring, put some lube on your penis and balls, so the cock ring will slide on more comfortably.
Location, location, location. Cock rings typically are worn around the base of the cock and the balls. You can just wear it on the shaft (and by all means, experiment!), but cock rings function the most effectively when secured around both the scrotum and cock. This allows blood to flow into the erection, but not out, so hardness and sensitivity increase.
Put cock rings on when you're semi-erect. If you've got a solid cock ring, first pull the loose skin of your scrotum through, then drop one testicle through, then the other, and finally push your penis through.
Masturbate. Once you've become accustomed to the sensations your cock ring creates, try masturbating. If your ring is the vibrating type, you can experiment with pointing the vibrating portion on your testicles for an extra buzz.
Make a statement. Get into the fantasy surrounding your cock ring. Whether you're showing off a festive adornment as part of a striptease, wearing it under your clothes to show off your package, or telling your lover you're proud to be submissive by wearing a locking cock ring, play up the erotic potential of your toy.
Cock rings are fun for silicone dicks, too! Strap a colorful or sexy leather ring on a dildo to dress it up.
Share it with a friend. Vibrating cock rings like the Sonic Ring Kit and the Tor vibe are designed to offer female partners clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Position the vibrator near the top of your cock (or the dildo if you've got a strap-on) so that during intercourse it bumps up against her clitoris. Keep your body down parallel to hers and try slow, shallow thrusts to make sure she receives consistent contact with the vibrator. Or try it with her on top, moving in more of a grinding than up-and-down motion.
Accessorize. Cock rings lend themselves well to other sex toy combinations. Try using a penis pump first and then applying a cock ring, or adding a Babeland Toy Cleaner.

Worn to look hot and ready for sex, or just to feel good, cock rings can double your pleasure and create a sexy package — think of them as form and function in one!

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How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend (anal penetration)

Wed, 07 Mar 2012 17:55:00 GMT

We love anal play here at Babeland! Over the years, we've been thrilled to see an amazing increase in the number of couples wanting to explore anal pleasure. It's heartwarming to see all sorts of people — from punk kids to grandparents — shopping for dildos and harnesses and exploring an often overlooked center of sexual pleasure. The phenomenon of women penetrating their male partners (also called pegging) has spawned a successful video series called Bend Over Boyfriend, a great resource worth checking out.

What's So Great About Anal Sex Anyway?

People love anal play because it feels great. While our society is rife with rumors that anal play is painful and damaging to our bodies, the truth is that butt sex can be healthy and extremely pleasurable. Our assholes are packed with nerve endings, and they're the same kind of nerve endings found throughout our genitals: the ones that make other types of sex pleasurable. Anal penetration is also the most direct way to stimulate the prostate, the male equivalent of the G-spot. To find it, insert a well-lubed finger anally and feel along the front wall of the rectum (toward your partner's belly button). It's about two to three inches inside, and it has a slightly crinkled texture that people compare to the surface of a walnut. Some men can have orgasms from having their prostates stimulated.

If your partner is hesitant to explore their butt, you may have to dispel some of the rumors they've heard about anal sex. Let's just address some of the common myths upfront:

"It hurts!" Generally, anal sex hurts if you're going too fast or without lube. The majority of us carry a lot of tension in our assholes, the same way we carry stress in our shoulders. Pain results when an object is forced through tight sphincter muscles, damaging the delicate anal tissues. If anal sex ever hurts, you should stop or take the stimulation back a notch. Remember: the key to anal pleasure is relaxation and lubrication! We highly recommend Maximus or Sliquid Sassy Booty Lube for anal play. (Please don't ever use numbing creams for anal sex; pain is a warning signal from our bodies that we should take seriously.)
"It gives you hemorrhoids (and/or uncontrollable bowels)!" Most people find that when they start exploring butt play, their anal health improves. All muscles benefit from the increased circulation that results from exercise and relaxation.
"It's messy!" Although you're likely to encounter some poop at some point in your anal sexplorations, it's probably going to be a lot less than you imagined. Most anal play engages only the first few inches of the anus and rectum, which do not store feces. Many people find that a thorough wash in the shower does the trick for removing any surface grime. If you're fastidious about cleaning, try a Deluxe Anal Douche; douche with regular room-temperature tap water (no soap!) a few hours before you play.
"It means you're gay!" People of all genders and orientations enjoy anal play. We all have butts, after all! Besides, it's a myth that all gay men only have anal sex. In fact, the majority of gay men report that oral sex is their favorite sexual activity.

The Right Stuff

So what's the "right way" to do anal sex? Each of these steps is crucial to happy butt sex.

Relax. Bend-over beginners need to learn to relax the sphincter muscles that ring the anal opening. Learning to relax these muscles can take time, especially after years of neglect or tension. Run your finger along the anus to relax it first. Gently insert a well-lubed finger into the anus. Ask your partner to push out gently as if trying to have a bowel movement, and that will relax the outer sphincter enough to slip in a finger or butt toy. Good beginner butt plugs are Little Flirt, Ripple Plug, and Pop Plugs.
Communicate. It's important that the person being penetrated control the pace of play. Nothing should ever be forced or hurried in anal play, and partners should stay in close communication about what feels good (and what doesn't).
Use lots of lube. Don't skimp on lube! The fragile lining of the anus does not self-lubricate, so add even more lube than you think you need. Generously lube the anus and your toy, and reapply often. A thick lube like Sliquid Sassy Booty Lube stays where you put it, and can protect delicate anal tissues.
Go slow. Especially at first, when your toy or finger enters the anus, your partner will need some time to adjust to the sensation. Check in about what feels good. As he learns to relax his sphincter muscle, he'll probably request more vigorous thrusting.

Saddle Up, Cowgirl!

Once you've both mastered the "ins and outs" of anal play, it's time for action! Here's a quick guide to harnesses, dildos, and other anal accoutrements.

Harnesses. The Jaguar harness is very stable and comfortable. It is also extremely versatile with interchangeable O-rings which can accommodate different sized dildos. The Joque Harness is another top-notch, extremely comfortable harness.
Dildos. Many people prefer to start small with dildos for anal play. If you're using a dildo by hand, make sure that it has a large base to keep it from disappearing into your honey's butt. That same base allows you to use the dildo in a harness. Silk dildos are as smooth and sleek as their name suggests. The smallest one is about the size of a large finger. If you're using a dildo in a harness, choose one with a slight curve and strap it in so the curve points toward his prostate (up or down, depending on the positioning of your bodies). The G-Curve is a great choice for boys who like prostate action, while the long, slim Vibrating Mistress is the answer for people who have trouble with shorter dildos popping out during use.
"What's in it for me?" Besides seeing your sweetie writhing in ecstasy, you can double your own pleasure while wearing a harness by following one of these tips. Double dildos like the Nexus Jr. or Share allow for both partners to be penetrated at once. The ingenious Buzz Me Tender harness has strategically-placed pockets for vibrators. The Bend Over Beginner kit has it all: a plush harness with an included vibe, and two silicone dildos, in different sizes.

More Anal Sex Materials

These are some of the best available resources about anal sex.

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How to Have Butt Sex: A Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex

Tue, 06 Mar 2012 16:47:00 GMT

Butt Sex Gets a Bum Rap

We live in a very butt phobic culture. Look at our language: rude, inconsiderate people are "assholes" and uptight stress cases are "tightasses." While it's true that we carry a phenomenal amount of our stress in our assholes, there's tremendous pleasure to be experienced from the concentration of nerve endings clustered in and around the anus.

Bootie Plug + Sliquid Lube Combo

Maximus Lube

Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women

Bend Over Beginner + Bend Over Boyfriend Combo

Why Try Anal Sex?

The truth is all kinds of people from all different sexual backgrounds get into the joys of butt sex. And for good reason: it feels good. The anus and the rectum are sensitive areas. There's a wealth of muscles and nerve endings around the anus, and the right kind of touch can feel fantastic. All men have a prostate gland that can be reached through the rectum. Many men have orgasms just from pressure on the prostate. A woman's G-spot can also be stimulated indirectly through anal play.

This how-to deals primarily with anal masturbation; it's best to experiment alone first so you can control the pace of your explorations. However, you are most welcome to try this with a partner as well — just go slowly, and communicate your desires and reactions to your partner. Check out our anal sex how to, which is geared more toward partner play. Most importantly, anal sex should not hurt — if it hurts, that's your body telling you to back off. Remember our butt mantra — "relaxation, lubrication, communication" — and you should be happily enjoying butt sex in no time.

Anal Sex Toys Get the Job Done

Sex toys can be a great way to learn how to have anal sex, either through anal masturbation or anal intercourse with a partner. These Babeland anal sex toys can help you get started:

Butt plugs. Butt plugs (also called anal plugs) are typically diamond- or bulb-shaped with a thin neck and a flared base, which prevents them from slipping into the rectum. The bulge in the middle helps the plug stay in place, and in men it can also stimulate the prostate. We love the Tristan Plug, designed by Tristan Taormino, the Anal Sex Queen herself. Also check out Ryder or the Little Flirt, two of our most popular butt plugs.
Anal beads. Anal beads cause the sphincter muscles to contract around each bead, which can enhance orgasm. Anal Beads come in multiple sizes and materials.
Anal dildos. A thin anal dildo is good to start with, as they're generally smooth and easy to thrust, but with practice and experience, you can use a dildo of any size (with or without a dildo harness) for anal intercourse with a partner, or for masturbation. The small Silk is a nice beginner's size, while the Vibrating Mistress is great if you want to combine vibrations with penetration. Bob and the Naughty Boy are elegantly shaped to help you find and stimulate your prostate.
Not sure where to start? Check out these excellent beginner's anal sex toys.

Getting Started with Anal Sex!

Clean up. If you're worried about coming into contact with feces (poop), go to the bathroom to clear out your bowels first. You can also shower first, or do your experimenting in the shower, or wear a latex glove with lube on it during anal play.
Exercise. Try some anally focused exercises, clenching and unclenching your sphincter muscles. Anal kegels can be done in sets of 12; try doing a fast set and a slow set. During the slow set, exhale on the relaxation portion of the exercise.
Add lube to your finger and your anus. The tissue of the rectum is sensitive, it doesn't self-lubricate as does the vagina, and it can suffer little micro tears and abrasions quite easily. So be gentle when you explore, and use lots and lots of lubricant—try Entice by Babeland or Maximus. These thicker lubes are great for anal sex because they don't evaporate as quickly. Our Bootie Plug plus Sliquid Lube Combo is a great way to get started with butt play.
Get to know your butt. Start by feeling around the outside of the hole. There are two sphincters of the anus, the outer one, which creates the pucker that you can see, and the inner sphincter that you can feel a short ways up if you insert your finger in your anus.
Go inside. If you're playing in the shower, ease a fingertip just inside your ass. If you're lying on your back or side, insert a well-lubed finger or anal toy. If you meet resistance, push out as if you had to go to the bathroom and push your finger in at the same time. The Aneros is a great toy for getting to know your anal muscles.
Experiment. Do some clenches and releases while touching yourself so that you can feel the changes in your asshole. Try rubbing in tiny, concentric, circles around the rim of your asshole. Notice whether there are any particularly sensitive spots. Don't feel you have to go very far inside. Just explore and enjoy yourself.

More Anal Sex Materials

These are hands-down the best resources about anal sex:

Anal Pleasure and Health, the original book on anal sex — a classic.
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. This is a fantastic book, full of practical tips and hot advice.
Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex The porn queen/sex-ed mistress gives you a personal tour of butt sex!
Bend Over Boyfriend DVD: This is an award-winning DVD teaching women (and illustrating with some hot sexy scenes) how to strap on a dildo and anally penetrate a partner.
Crash Pad, Masseuse DVDs. These are adult DVDs with hot strap-on scenes.

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How Guys Can Enjoy Vibrators

Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:47:00 GMT

(Excerpted from Sex Toys 101)

Cobra Libre

Fukuoku 9000Finger Vibe

Fleshlight Vulva

A guy’s hands are usually enough to get him off, but who says he can’t enjoy the pleasures of vibration, too? Vibrators are known for their magical orgasmic power for women, but they are by no means a single-sex stimulator. Why not let some of that magic rub off on him?

The Cobra Libre is specifically designed to vibrate the end of the penis; it's been a life-changer for many a guy who thought vibrators were only for women!
Add vibration to your hand during your usual stroke. The Fukuoku 9000 is great for this because it slides comfortably over your finger and has three different silicone sleeve attachments for slight sensation variation.
Placing a vibrator on the perineum (the skin between your anus and your balls) sends a buzz toward the prostate, a much-overlooked male erogenous zone. Or go for the full monty and try a buzzing butt plug.
Plenty of guys get off on vibration on the head of the penis. Try the Cobra Libre for a unique vibrating sensation around the penis head and frenulum.
Soup up the the Fleshlight Vulva, the ultimate masturbation sleeve, by adding a Babeland Silver Bullet vibrator. Zoooom!
Many prostate stimulators have a built-in vibrator as well: try the Rude Boy or Pandora.
Slip a cock ring vibrator like the Sonic Ring Kit over your penis and you'll feel the vibration directly at the base of your penis. Turn the bullet vibrator so it's facing down and it'll also vibrate your balls, or turn it so it sits atop your cock and it'll vibrate a partner's clit during intercourse.
Male and female genitals are analogous — what's good for the goose is good for the gander! Slip the Fukuoku 9000 on, and run your vibrating hand up and down the shaft of the penis and around the scrotum.

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How To Female Ejaculate

Sun, 04 Mar 2012 16:40:00 GMT

Our bodies are capable of amazing things, and female ejaculation is just one of them. When a woman ejaculates, a clear watery fluid chemically similar to male prostatic fluid squirts out of her urethra. While some women ejaculate with an orgasm, others find that orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct events. In either case, G-spot action is generally essential to ejaculation, because it stimulates the production of ejaculate by the paraurethral glands.

Lots of folks are skeptical about female ejaculation, and even doubt the existence of the G-spot! If you need irrefutable proof that the G-spot and female ejaculation exists, check out Expert Guide to the G-Spot, where you'll get to see several folks experiencing the joys of the G-spot. It's a movie that could change your life (or at least your sex life!).

Some women ejaculate easily, and find that they have actually taught themselves to hold back from ejaculating because they thought their ejaculate was urine. Not everyone ejaculates, but if you want to try and learn how, follow these simple steps:

Feel the Burn

Pelvic muscle tone seems to play a part in whether someone ejaculates or not. If you've never done PC muscle exercises, check out How to Exercise Your PC Muscles. For ejaculation, it's important to learn to relax as well as contract your PC (pubococcygeus) muscles. Relaxing or pushing out with your PC muscles will allow ejaculate to flow out of the urethra. Get in touch with your PC muscles and see whether they're usually relaxed or tight. If the muscles are tense, learn to relax your pelvic floor by doing PC muscle exercises. You can start practicing right now while you finish reading this article.

Take the Plunge

Another essential part of female ejaculation is G-spot stimulation. Finding your G-spot is easy! If you enjoy penetration, part of that feel-good feeling is probably a G-spot sensation. G-spot exploration is more about rewiring your thinking about your own body than it is a quest for some secret "button" you've never noticed before.

Berman G + Smart Girl's Guide to the G-spot Combo

Candy Colored Glass Dildo

First, take some time to get aroused. Masturbate the way you normally would. Put on a sexy DVD. Take out that well-loved collection of erotica, or just luxuriate in one of your favorite fantasies. Before you start looking for your G-spot, have an orgasm or two to congratulate yourself for being such an intrepid G-spot explorer! If you don't have multiple orgasms, tease yourself to a high plateau of arousal. When you're all warmed up, your G-spot will be easier to feel because it swells with blood and fluid during arousal.
Lube up your fingers and let them do the walking. Feel the relatively smooth walls of the vaginal canal. Touch your cervix if it's within reach. If you've never felt around your own vagina before, take some time to touch the different areas. Press against the vaginal walls. Notice the texture of the tissue and how it feels when you touch it.
Next, focus on the front wall of the vaginal canal (that's the one nearest your belly button). About one or two inches in, the surface will feel ridged and rough compared to the rest of the vaginal tissue. Press against that tissue and see how it feels. It might not feel like much. It might feel sensitive or uncomfortable. It might remind you of the sensation that tells you that you need to pee. It might feel great! Press harder and feel around for your pubic bone. If you can hook your finger behind it, see how that feels too. Surprise! You've just found your G-spot! The rough and ridgy area we've explored on the front vaginal wall is the G-spot, also known as the urethral sponge or the female prostate. Think of it as a G-area rather than just one little spot.
Add a toy. Fingers are suitable G-spot stimulators, though a lot of folks find that it's easier to reach your own G-spot with toys, and that they provide good, firm stimulation. Any dildo or vibrator with a firm curve is a great G-spot option. Some of our favorites include the Berman Venus G and the Babeland Nubby G, along with great options like the Gigi and the weighty, non-vibrating Njoy Pure Wand. Experiment with stimulating your G-spot, and find stimulation that feels right for you.

Let it Flow

Some women will find that they naturally ejaculate with G-spot stimulation. For others, a few more steps are involved in teaching your body to ejaculate.

Before stimulating your G-spot, empty your bladder. A lot of women don't let themselves ejaculate because they worry about urinating. If your bladder is empty, you won't have to worry about peeing in your bed. If you're aroused, stimulating your G-spot, and feel a sensation similar to the need to pee, continue with the stimulation and bear down with your PC muscles. You might ejaculate.
Minimize mess, maximize enjoyment! For a lot of women, the fear of peeing is so ingrained that it takes a little more work to overcome. If you're in bed, consider putting a towel or two under your butt. If you're still plagued by pee-phobia, take your ejaculation exploration to the bathroom. You can put a few towels on the floor or try out the bathtub! Find a situation that will allow you to trust your body. And make a bargain with yourself: if you pee, you pee. No big deal. After all, all that stimulation felt great, right? If you work through that pee feeling, relax, and then ejaculate, give yourself a high-five! If you're worried about the mess, keep in mind that the amount of ejaculate is typically no more than a teaspoon or two.
Make a conscious effort to ejaculate. If you're stimulating your G-spot, relaxing your PC muscles, and riding that "something is going to happen" feeling but nothing's going, push out with your PC muscles. Most likely, you'll push out the ejaculate. And you'll squirt or sprinkle rather than gush.
Add clit stimulation. Many women find that G-spot stimulation feels great, but that added clit stimulation, via tongues, hand, or vibrator, will take them over the top. Try a vibrator on your clit and a curved dildo like the Rose G-Spotter in your vagina if you're by yourself, and see what happens.

What happens if after all this exploration, you don't like G-spot stimulation or you didn't ejaculate? In the process, you've collected a lot of new information about your body and what you like during sex. It's worth checking back in with your G-spot occasionally — sometimes G-spot sensitivity changes with your monthly cycle, or over a lifetime. Don't miss out on making your own splashy fun!

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How to Choose a Dildo

Thu, 01 Mar 2012 16:30:46 GMT

Dildo shopping involves a lot of personal preference. Shape, size, texture, style, and color are all up to you. We carry a large variety of dildos because everyone's preference is different. This quick guide is designed to easily hook you up with your dream dick.

If you're looking for...	Try...
Realistic dildos	Vixskin toys like the Outlaw and Bandit are scandalously realistic, made of medical-grade silicone, and come with a lifetime warranty. The Adam is similarly realistic, with a slightly different shape.
Non-realistic styling	The brightly-colored Laid D.1 is a great hand-held option for those who don't want their dildo to look like a penis; for a harnessable non-realistic dildo, try Silk.
Hand-held dildos	Hand-held dildos like the Ella and the Pure Wand are great for self-use (especially for G-spot stimulation), and for folks who love penetration but don't want to deal with a strap on or dildo harness.
Double dildos	Double-ended dildos like the Nexus and the Share allow both partners to be penetrated simultaneously. Best when used with a harness.
Vibration	The Leo Vibe Kit and the Vibrating Mistress are both vibrating silicone beauties that incorporate a mini-vibrator, removable during cleaning, in the base. These dildos are great for use with a harness.
Anal action	Smaller dildos like the Silk are great for anal play beginners. The Vibrating Mistress provides a slim, vibrating option, also great for anal beginners.
G-spot stimulation	G-spot toys all feature a distinct curve. If you're looking for G-spot stimulation, try dildos with a curved tip, like the G Curve dildo, Pure Wand, and Rose G-Spotter.
Small dildos	The Silk 1 dildo is narrow and short, the Vibrating Mistress is narrow with an average length, and the Buster is squat and girthy. Take your pick!
Big dildos	Randy, Outlaw, and Rodeo Rick are dildos with very generous proportions.
Medium-sized, all-around dildos	Woody and Leo aren't too big or too small (though Woody is smaller than Leo). They’re a good middle-of-the-road size if you're buying a dildo without a particular partner in mind.
Packer	Soft packs are the standard choice for creating an enticing bulge. The Mr. Right packer is a long-lasting, high-quality toy made of 100% silicone.
Equally good for packing and playing	The Mr. Bendy and the Goodfella feature a flexible core that makes it easy to pack, but still firm enough for fucking.
Firmer	Glass dildos like the Candy Colored Glass Dildo offer a rock-hard feeling of fullness. The stainless steel Pure Wand is a dream come true for fans of G-spot and P-spot stimulation.

Dildo 101

Materials are one of the most important considerations in choosing a dildo. Non-porous materials like silicone, Pyrex, and stainless steel are Babeland favorites because they are the easiest to care for and last much longer than porous materials like jelly rubber or cyberskin. If you're looking for a dildo to use with a harness, you're in luck. Most of the dildos we carry are designed to be used in harnesses. Look for a toy with a wide base that won't slip through the ring on your harness. Dildos with balls fit best in harnesses like the Terra Firma or Commando.

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How to Choose an Anal Toy

Tue, 28 Feb 2012 16:30:46 GMT

Not sure whether you want a butt plug, anal vibrator, anal beads or a prostate toy? This handy guide will explain the differences in anal sex toys and help you get started easily and comfortably with anal sex.

Are you looking for ...	Try...
A first-time butt plug?	Small butt plugs like the Little Flirt and the Bootie are a great introduction to the joys of anal play. If you're not ready for the butt plug, sexy black latex gloves and lube make for a great first anal sex experience.
The best lube for your butt?	Lube is absolutely essential for anal play. We love Maximus, which is thick, glycerin-free, and water-based; BabeLube Silicone, a super-slick silicone lube; and vegan Sliquid Sassy Booty Formula .
Anal sex toys that are easy to clean?	Silicone is the material of choice for anal toys. It's soft yet medical-grade, which means it can be disinfected and safely shared with partners. However, keep in mind that you can't use silicone lube with silicone toys.
An anal vibrator?	The slim Pandora plug is made for a man's body, but it's strong enough for a woman's! It's the only anal vibrator that boasts pulsating vibrations.
More education about anal sex?	Anal play is a learning process, especially if your goal is anal intercourse. Education is crucial! Check out a book like Anal Pleasure and Health or an article like How to Have Anal Sex.
Anal beads?	People love the opening-and-closing sensation provided by bumpy anal beads. Try out our hygienically-superior versions — silicone Flexi Felix and Ripple, and Babeland's own Anal Beads.
A prostate massager?	Men especially love anal play because they can access the prostate (also known as the male G-spot or P-spot) anally. The Aneros is a patented toy that provides a hands-free prostate massage.
A hands-free, stay-put butt plug?	Butt plugs are made to go in and stay in, hands-free! Both the Ryder and Big Flirt are medium-sized anal plugs for folks who want an anal sex toy that will stay put.
A deluxe treat?	Both the Pure Plug and Pandora anal vibrator are deluxe toys. The Pandora pulsates as it pleases. The Pure Plug is crafted of heavy, non-porous stainless steel. A sumptuous treat!
A large butt plug?	The Tristan is a great large butt plugs for experienced butts. Enjoy its generous size and the ultimate feeling of fullness.
An anal dildo?	Dildos are great toys for anal sex. The Silk series is slim and smooth, perfect for anal sex. The Mistress is also slim but longer and with a wider base--a great anal sex toy to put in a dildo harness.
A dildo harness kit (aka "strap on")?	The Bend Over Boyfriend Kit pairs the Silk 1 and 2 dildos with a comfy nylon harness. The Jaguar Harness and Leo Combo Kit pairs two premium sex toys at a great savings.

Anal Play Tips

Remember our butt mantra "relaxation, lubrication, communication" and you should be happily enjoying fun, pleasurable anal sex in no time:

Relaxation is crucial to anal play. Two anal sphincters surround and protect the anal opening. If you make friends with these muscles and learn to relax them, you’ll quickly discover why folks love anal play. Remember, if you feel any pain or discomfort at any time, slow down and relax!
Lubrication protects delicate anal tissues. It also makes yummy sensations even more delicious. Because butts do not create natural lubrication (like vaginas), lube out of the bottle is absolutely required.
Communication is another method of protecting yourself and your partner. Especially if you’re just starting to explore anal sex, it’s important that the partner being penetrated should always be in complete control of what’s happening, and how fast, how much, and how deep. Connect with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t!

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Hopping Down the Bunny (Vibrators) Trail

Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:30:46 GMT

Ever since the original Rabbit Habit made famous on Sex and the City, we've had so many new Rabbits come hopping down the bunny trail, like the Sexy Bunny and Bullet Bunny. Which bunny is right for you?

Here's our handy guide for choosing a Rabbit Vibe. Or check out our Rabbit Vibe comparison shopping chart.

Looking for the Dual-Action or Rabbit-style vibe that:	Try these...	And...
Is cute as a bunny, but still sexy?	Sexy Bunny is one of the spunkiest bunny vibrators we've found in our rabbit hole yet. It's hot pink, and beautifully crafted from quality silicone.Rosebud is another silicone version which is a softer pink, but with a stronger vibe.
Seduced Charlotte on "Sex and the City"...?	The original bunny: the Rabbit Pearl vibe became infamous as Charlotte's "boyfriend" on Sex and the City. Rabbit Pearl comes with a separate control for your convenience... or a partner's pleasure!
The cordless version of Charlotte's Rabbit?	The sister of the original bunny vibe is Rabbit Habit by Vibratex, and this updated version is latex- and phthalate-free. Elastomer Rabbit Habit is the head hutch-o of our best-selling Bunny Love Kit: batteries, toy cleaner, condoms, and lube included!
Doesn't need batteries...?	The streamlined, elegant Ina is rechargeable, so there's no need to stock up on disposable batteries. This winner also has multiple vibration/pulsation settings, so you're sure to find at least one that drives you wild!
Is a sex toy icon?	The Iconic Rabbit vibrator is Jimmyjane's luxury version of the famous Rabbit Habit. We Babelanders have dubbed it the "White Rabbit," and it's also part of a kit of iconic sex toys called the Usual Suspects Kit.
Concentrates on the G-spot a little more?	The silicone Rosebud vibrator blossoms into a head that finds and grinds the G-spot with a circular motion strong enough to keep rotating even while you rock your Kegels.
Smaller than the original?	The small but mighty Thumbelina has a smaller, sweeter shaft but a larger clitoral vibe. And the inexpensive and wildly popular Butterfly Kiss offers internal and external vibration in a lovely small package.
Will hop into the shower with you?	Catch some waves with the Ocean Vibe! This rechargeable vibe will keep you satisfied in water or on dry land.
A free-range rabbit that will hop along anywhere with you?	Bullet Bunny is strong for its size with a removable bullet vibe; the Bunny Tickler can hop onto almost any bullet vibe as a discreet and stimulating attachment.
Comes packaged with other great toys (so you get more for your money?)	The Iconic Rabbit also comes in a gorgeous luxury Usual Suspects Kit with a pocket vibe and cock ring vibe.The Elastomer Rabbit Habit is the head hutch-o of our best-selling Bunny Love Kit.

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Sun, 26 Feb 2012 17:06:18 GMT

While some folks think of lube as a luxury, we think of it as a necessity! It makes your sex play more slippery and fun, and it's a great complement for sex toys and safer sex supplies. To find the one that's right for you, consult this guide. And remember: sometimes it takes a bevy of options to satisfy the moment.

Lube Shopping Guide

Looking for a lube that is...	Try these Babeland favorites...	and...
Simple and scentless?	Babeland's own BabeLube is a great all-around lubricant that happens to be one of the gentlest lubes on the market (which makes it great for sensitive-skinned folks). It's a tasteless, odorless, paraben-free, latex-compatible water-based lube.
Silicone-based?	Silicone-based lube is long-lasting and doesn't wash off with plain water (making it great for underwater sex). Try our very own BabeLube Silicone, a simple, slick choice that's the same formula as the popular Eros Bodyglide.
A tasty treat?	Yummy Sliquid Swirl Green Apple will make you take a mouth-watering bite out of your lover. For lighter fare, try Babeland's own BabeLicious, available in four tasty flavors.
Made from natural ingredients?	Botanical, water-based, paraben-free, and infused with aloe, BabeLube Natural is compatible with safer sex barriers and all toy materials. Our lube is never tested on animals, nor does it contain animal ingredients.
Good for anal sex?	We love Sliquid Sassy Booty Lube for its paraben- and glycerin-free formula and thick, cushiony consistency. Maximus, a classic favorite for anal play, also protect and cushions delicate anal tissue with its thick formula.
Portable, or just looking to try a few out?	The original Lube Sampler packs are the perfect way to familiarize yourself with different types of lube, and select the ones that are just right for you.
Tingly and sweet?	Sliquid Organics Sensation adds tingle to your lubrication. Create warm and tingly feelings while you rub the night, or morning, or afternoon away!

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While there are many different brands of lube, there are really only a few basic variations on lube formulas. Water-based lubricants are the most common, as they are compatible with condoms/latex and silicone toys, and are easiest to clean up. Oil-based lubes are great for hand jobs, but will break down condoms, and are generally not recommended for internal use because it's hard for the body to flush them out. Silicone-based lubes are long-lasting and safe to use internally, but they can be harder to wash off and are more expensive.

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Sat, 25 Feb 2012 14:51:00 GMT

Looking for the perfect G-spot or Prostate toy?

If you’re on a quest to find your G-spot or prostate, the expression "the right tool for the job" is key. You definitely want a toy with a curve toward the tip, and many women prefer firmer materials like silicone or glass dildos made of acrylic. The male G-spot, known as the prostate, can be stimulated with any of these toys as well. You might also want to read our how-tos on Finding Your G-Spot and Stimulating the prostate.

Are you looking for ...	Try...	Babeland Favorites
A beautiful, rechargeable G-spot vibe?	Gigi, our bestselling superstar, sports a firm, pronounced curve for breathtaking G-spot stimulation. Or try the Delight, which allows you to alternate easily between G-spot and clit vibration.
A customizable G-spot experience?	The G-Ki is silicone, rechargeable... and features a customizable angle! It's easy to adjust the curve and lock it in place to meet your specific G-spot needs, so you can experiment freely and joyfully.
A good, all-around G-spot vibrator?	The Orchid G is a very popular G vibrator, made of hard plastic with a pronounced head to help you hit the G-spot or prostate.
A good, all-around G-spot dildo (with no vibe)?	Try the silicone Ella, with its firm-yet-pliant and perfectly shaped G-spot hook. Or for a firmer dildo, consider the Candy Colored Glass Dildo, which is a beautiful art like glass toy.
An easy way to start exploring, or a great sex toy gift?	The Orchid G + Female Ejaculation makes a great gift or first-timers kit. You save $7.50 when you buy both together.
Best bang for your buck?	The Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator and G-Whiz Combo kit delivers two great toys at a $12 savings. The silicone G-Whiz attachment snaps easily over the Hitachi, providing powerful G-spot and clitoral vibrations. You save $12 when you buy both together.
A super easy to hold G-spot vibrator or dildo?	Hand-held dildos like the Fling and the Moka G Vibe are really easy for you or a partner to hold.
A softer, more flexible G-spot sex toy?	Go for a silicone toy like the Boss lady vibrator.
A firmer G-spot sex toy?	Stainless steel toys like the Pure Wand (formerly Jupiter Wand and the Eleven) are a dream come true for G-spot and P-spot fans who like firm stimulation.
Clitoral stimulation as well as G-spot action?	The silicone Ina has taken the dual-action world by storm, with its dual motors and unique vibration patterns. The Rabbit Habbit, made famous on Sex and The City, and the silicone Rosebud will both twirl your G-spot and vibrate your clit with multiple settings.
A G-spot dildo to use in a strap on harness?	Try a longer, curved dildo like the Mistress to account for the space between your bodies.
Some lube? (Always recommended for penetration)	Give our newly reformulated, BabeLube Natural a try. Or for non-silicone toys, try the slick, long-lasting BabeLube Silicone. Also see our extensive personal lubricants selection.
Prostate toy for the "male G-spot" (prostate stimulation)	The Naughty Boy features a U-shaped design suited to prostate stimulation. For a firmer, heavier sensation, try the stainless steel Pfun Plug. Be sure to check out our other prostate toys, too.
More information or a little help?	Try the book Female Ejaculation and the G-spot. Or, for the more visually inclined, Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to the G-spot DVD will teach you a thing or two.

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Fri, 24 Feb 2012 16:30:46 GMT

Looking for a romantic gift kit for her or a sexy surprise for him? Sex toys make great gifts at any time of year: weddings, anniversaries, holidays, birthdays, and bridal showers are perfect occasions to give the gift of pleasure.

Are you looking for...	Try...	Babeland Favorite
A first vibrator?	For a first toy, we generally recommend something versatile, with variable speeds. Try a bestseller like the Babeland Silver Bullet or Mystic Wand for clitoral stimulation, or the bestselling Orchid G for G-spot fun.
An upgrade from a basic vibrator?	Looking to try out new sensations with a second vibrator? There are lots of fun options: powerful, high-quality electric models, versatile G-spot vibrators, and vibrators with pulsating speeds like the Laya Spot, the Better Than Chocolate, or the bestselling Jimmyjane Form 2.
Sex toys for men?	Sex toys for men generally fall into three categories: masturbation sleeves like the Tenga Flip or Cobra Libre, cock rings like the Duet Vibrating Cock Ring, and prostate toys like Naughty Boy or Aneros.
A tasty treat?	Our delectable BabeLicious flavored lubricant, available in four flavors, and Chocolate Body Sauce make you or your lover into a yummy dessert. The dulce de leche flavored Babeland Lickable Oil is absolutely delicious!
Sensual massage?	There are lots of options for massage oils these days — try Babeland Body massage oil, Babeland Body Spray Massage Oil, or our Babeland Body Massage Candles. Try lighting a massage candle and let the skin-safe soy wax liquefy, then drizzle the warm oil on your partner's body for a warming massage.
A gift pack?	We take the guesswork out of gift giving by preparing romantic gift kits that fit every budget. The Bunny Love Kit is among our most popular kits; the We-Vibe Couple's Kit or Honeymoon in a Box are perfect gifts for newlyweds or anniversary-celebrators.
A game?	There are a variety of sexy games to suit your every desire, from building intimacy with a partner to sparking laughter at a bachelorette party.
A luxurious sex toy?	When you want to give the very best, the SaSi provides an experience that she'll swear is just like cunnilingus. The firm curve of the stainless steel Pure Wand is a dream come true for G-spot and prostate stimulation fans. .
A fun surprise?	If you've been seeking spontaneity in your sex life, try getting turned on from across a crowded room with the cordless, remote-control Babeland Remote Vibe Panty vibrator. Wear them out to a club, dinner, or a show, and submit to your partner's control.
A wedding gift?	Couple's gift kits like Honeymoon in a Box, We-Vibe Couple's Kit, or the Jimmyjane Usual Suspects Kit are perfect wedding gifts. Books like The Multi-Orgasmic Couple and The Guide to Getting it On are great reference guides for people starting a life together.
An anniversary gift?	Sex toys make great anniversary gifts. If you’re buying a gift for your sweetie, think about using it as a fun invitation to pleasures you haven’t yet explored—that could be vibrators, adult DVDs, anal sex, cock rings , strap-ons, sensual delights like massage or BDSM, or anything you can think of!
A gift for a couple?	When shopping for a couple, keep both people's pleasure in mind. Double your fun with a cock ring like the Duet Ring, or a double-dildo like the Feeldoe. The ever-popular We-Vibe is designed to be worn, hands-free, for G-spot and clit vibration during sex.
Something not too intimidating?	A Babeland Gift Card is a perfect choice if you want to give a fun gift, but you're not exactly sure what to buy.
A book?	Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex is a friendly, easy-to-read guide to optimizing your sexual pleasure, alone or in a couple. Susie Bright's collection, X: The Erotic Treasury provides hours of literary lusciousness. Five Minute Erotica by Carol Queen, is a great way to start your erotica collection.
Sensation exploration?	Explore erotic sensations with a staff favorite, the Pinwheel.
A bachelorette party gift?	Games always make fun gifts for the blushing bride. Babeland Body Lickable Oil is a fun, tasty gift. Or try a simple, fun vibrator like the Ophoria Finger Vibe or Love Lipstick Vibe.

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Thu, 23 Feb 2012 17:53:01 GMT

Ten Ways to Make a Big Splash!

By Alicia Guinn

Rediscover your shower or hot tub — or even the great outdoors — as erotic playgrounds with a new waterproof toy for inspiration. Waterproof sex toys are incredibly versatile, and they also make popular first vibrators.

1. Sing in the Shower

A vibrator in the shower gives you reason to sing! If you share your living space with others, the shower can provide an oasis of privacy. Behind a locked door with the water running, the shower is the perfect place to enjoy vibrators discreetly. The Blueberry Buzz, a classic customer favorite, is the perfect toy to keep on your bathtub ledge.

2. Get Wet and Wild Outside

Waterproof toys are great for outdoor adventures. If you love backpacking, camping, rafting, or kayaking, there's no reason to leave your vibrator at home. The RO-120mm Vibrator is small enough to tuck into your backpack, and perfect for whipping out at the height of white water rafting excitement.

3. Indulge in a Sensual Retreat

Sometimes nothing is more relaxing and rejuvenating than a hot bath. Create a sensual retreat from the day's worries by lighting candles and locking the bathroom door. Add one of our aromatic Babeland Body Bath Fizzies to the water. To set the mood, light up some of our Babeland Body Massage Candles, for ambiance as well as a footrub!

4. Slip-n-Slide, Adult-Style

One of our favorite sex toys is lube, because it really can make the difference between so-so sex and sensational sex. BabeLube Silicone is a miracle of modern technology; it's a hypoallergenic, super-slick lube that even stays slippery underwater. It's the most popular lube for use in hot tubs. Whether you're soaking solo or looking forward to the hot tub in the honeymoon suite, BabeLube Silicone is the lube for you.

5. Learn to Squirt (and not with a plastic gun)

Waterproof toys are especially handy for women who ejaculate. Whether you're new to squirting or regularly soak the sheets, you can enjoy all that satisfying wetness without worrying about ruining your favorite vibe. The Babeland Orchid G is a classic G-spot toy. It features a firm curve, convenient handle, and a vibrator located in the tip of the toy that's great for clitoral stimulation. The G-Ki is another fabulous vibe for G-spot stimulation in the tub; the easily adjustable curve means customized G-spot pleasure!

6. Heat Things Up in the Hot Tub

Hot tubs are popular locales for erotic play. They comfortably hold two or more people, the bubbles can disguise all sorts of naughty teasing, and the jets hold intriguing orgasmic possibilities for women. Increase your hot tub fun with I Rub My Duckie, a powerful vibrator that masquerades as an innocent rubber ducky. Or take the Sonic Ring Kit for a test-drive; it's a waterproof vibrating cockring that's easy to slide over a penis or dildo. Great for solo or partner sex!

7. Skinny Dip — Alone or With Friends

Skinny dipping is an incredibly sensual and exciting experience. Whether you're swimming in your own backyard, a remote hot spring, or your local swimming hole, you can give yourself some extra thrills by bringing along a waterproof vibe. Both the powerful Jimmyjane Form 2 and the Better Than Chocolate are perfectly handheld, quiet, and easy to throw in the bottom of your bag in case you encounter the perfect opportunity to bare all.

8. Pump It Up

Although pumps are well known for use on penises, vacuum pumps, like our deluxe hand Pump and Cylinders, can also be used on nipples, clits, and other sensitive bits. To prepare for pumping, turn yourself on first by taking a bath or shower. Some people enjoy pumping while in the bath. Just disconnect the cylinder from the pump before submerging because the pump itself is not waterproof!

9. Come Clean

One of the best reasons to love waterproof toys is the simplest: they're a snap to clean. If you hate high-maintenance toys and materials, a waterproof toy is perfect for you. Dump your toys in the sink, scrub until you're satisfied, and rinse them right under the faucet. No fuss! The Blueberry Buzz is a variation on the popular slimline design and one of our most popular sellers.

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