Husband Not Into Oral Sex

Dear Rachel and Claire,

My husband told me he loved to go down but it lasted not even 2 minutes. I don't want to ask him to, I am very shy about asking. I have shaved, trimmed, tried everything, but he just won't. I go down on him every time we make love. How can I get him to with out asking him. Sometimes I feel like he is into it and I know I'm not 'cause I never hardly get touched at all.

-Oral Enthusiast

A:

Dear Oral Enthusiast,
My first advice is ask him to do it, and if he won’t or repeats his 2 minute performance ask him what’s going on. There may be a problem that you can fix—maybe he only likes bushy babes and your trim job is backfiring. If he's not keen on your taste, maybe you can "sweeten" the deal by using a flavored lube, or if he's afraid of his tongue tiring, have him slip on a fingertip vibe which he can use to finish the job. Take a look at some of our other great tips for spicing up oral sex.

Another option would be for you to stop giving him oral and then when he asks tell him “I will when you will.” Unfortunately you are not going to get what you want without some degree of discussion, as embarrassing as that feels to you. But it’s worth it, so use your mouth so he’ll use his.