Is Oral Sex Really Sex?

Dear Rachel and Claire,
Is oral sex really considered "sex"? Or does sex have to be intercourse? I know people who mess around on their partners but as long as it's only a "blow job" they don't feel they're doing anything wrong. What do you gals think??

--Wondering about Wandering


A:

Well we're lesbians, so of course we don't think only intercourse is sex.

"Sex" covers a lot of activities.
If someone’s partner doesn't mind that they give others the occasional blowjob then there is nothing wrong with it. It's great! Sex is super—it's the sneaking around that's so uncool.