My first dick

Dear Rachel and Claire,
My husband would like me to use a strap-on on him.  We've been enjoying my vibrators together for some time.  I think he's looking for something that would simulate a masculine encounter. 

I've been shopping on line, but there are so many options that my head is spinning!  My husband says it's my penis, so my choice, I definitely need some advice.  Can you make any recommendations?

My first dick

A:

Dear MFD,

Your husband has a really great attitude- thinking of the dildo as “yours” will help make the experience more satisfying for both of you. With that in mind, we recommend that you pick a dildo that not only meets your ideal size requirements, but one that appeals to you on a “gut” level. If you have dick that is sexy to you, and that matches your sense of self, it will be easier to charge it up with your energy and to feel really connected to it and to your husband when you are fucking.

For some folks, the more realistic the better. Ultraskin dicks are the most realistic looking and feeling. Because they have tiny pores, we strongly suggest using condoms with the Ultraskins to keep them clean. They are also somewhat prone to tearing, so don’t expect a lifetime of use from one of those. If you are willing to give a little on the lifelike feel, silicone dildos can take much more rough and tumble action, and their smooth surfaces makes them easier to keep germ-free (though condoms make clean-up quick). We love silicone toys for their good looks, longevity, and easy maintenance. Some of the more popular penis-looking silicone models are Rodeo Rick, and Leo. Of course you don’t have to go realistic- the Siren series, and Silk, are great non-anatomical looking toys. And you’ll have lots of color choices, from butch black to silver glitter.

Usually shopping you can narrow it down to a few- clicking on the thumbnail photos will open a larger picture, which you can keep open to compare- and then just abandon rational thought and pick the one that turns you on.

You’ll also need a harness, but picking one out is not as difficult. The main thing is to get a good secure fit- whichever harness you choose, cinch it up tight so the base of the dick is firmly against your body. With the strap-on securely in place, all you need is some lube, (Maximus is good for anal play), and you’re ready to ride.

Have fun!