Q: Could My Vagina Have Shrunk?

Dear Rachel and Claire,

I haven't had sex in almost 2 years. I recently started masturbating and I have pain when I try to penetrate my vagina with my vibrator. Could I have shrunk? I met a new guy and I'm pretty sure we're going to start having sex. I'm afraid that the pain upon insertion will not go away.

Help,

Shrinking Violet

A:

Dear Shrinking Violet, You’ve probably lost some elasticity from lack of use, but just like any muscles, your pussy muscles will get stronger and more supple with regular workouts. Try having some orgasms from clitoral stimulation first, as the release of tension may soften things up a bit. Put aside your too-large vibrator and try something smaller for penetration focus on what feels good and you’ll soon be able to enjoy something larger.