We need a dildo built to please

Dear Rachel and Claire,

Hi there!  We would like to find a dildo that could also give a good time to my partner while wearing it. We found one item that seems like it but I am not sure it does vibrate on the part that will touch her clit. Could you please advise which item on the website that would suit our demand? Thank you

A:

Thanks for contacting us! I’d be happy to assist you with your question.

It sounds like you and your partner are looking for ways to add direct clitoral stimulation during strap-on sex. No problem, we have great suggestions for that.

There are many ways to do strap-on play! The most common ways being with a strap-on harness, or with a strapless double-sided dildo. Additionally some people may even create their own harnesses out of rope or underwear. Without knowing the method you and your partner use, I’ll just provide several options that could work for any. 

Many harnesses include pockets built in them for adding a vibrator above or below the base of the dildo. The Joque and Tomboi from Spareparts and the Velvet Harness by Sportsheets are just a few examples that do so.  These would be great suggestions if you are looking to upgrade your harness to accommodate your desires. 

If you are looking for a vibrating dildo, I would suggest the Leo Vibe Kit or the Vibrating Mistress. If you are looking to create direct clitoral stimulation but don’t necessarily need that to be vibrating, the Mustang Royale is another great suggestion that is designed just for that purpose. Also, because the vibration is going through the material of the harness before contacting the nerves of the clitoris, some folks find it helpful to replace the standard bullet vibe that comes with the dildos/harnesses with a stronger rechargeable model such as the Crave Bullet or the We-Vibe Tango. You could also add a natural stimulating gel/lubricant over the clitoris such as Sliquid Organics Stimulating O-Gel to help awaken the nerves and add more sensitivity. 

Lastly, if your partner is open to receiving internal stimulation as well, the We-Vibe Unite is a hands-free vibrator that provides internal and external stimulation at the same time. Wearing it underneath a harness can be a fun way to provide extra pleasure for a harnesses wearer, and because it’s remote control operated you could even provide the vibration for your partner yourself! Additionally, non-vibrating products such as the Ami Kegel Balls for vaginal insertion, or butt plugs like the Little Flirt are staff favorites for adding more stimulation to harness play. Sometimes blending stimulation from multiple areas is helpful for folks looking to orgasm from their harness. 

As you can see, there isn’t one item that works for everyone, but given our quality product selection and trusted resources, we are always happy to help find the products that uniquely work best for you. Please let us know if you have any further questions, and thank you for shopping with us at Babeland.