How to Choose a Harness

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How to Choose a Harness

by Alicia Guinn

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Comes in an all-in-one beginner’s kit?	The Bend Over Beginner Kit comes with two smaller-sized silicone dildos, a plush velvety harness, and a mini-vibrator that fits into a clever pocket to provide clitoral stimulation for the harness wearer.
Is classic and versatile?	The Terra Firma Leather Harness is a classic. It’s sturdy, comfortable, and easy-to-use. And its interchangeable o-ring is an innovative design that holds almost any dildo on the market.
Is vegan?	Non-leather harnesses include the Black Cat, Pleasure Principle, and Bend Over Boyfriend Kit.
Is the ultimate in style and comfort?	The Jaguar Harness combines sexiness and practicality. Its soft, buttery leather makes for the comfiest harness you’ll ever wear. And it comes in white and red.
Is convertible between one- and two-strap styles?	Both the Pleasure Principle and Commando Harnesses can be worn as either a one- or two-strap. They’re great choices for first time harness buyers who can’t decide between styles or couples who have different harness preferences.
Is available in larger sizes?	The Crown Harness fits up to 64” hips. Outlaw Harnesses like Cash and Annie O are highly adjustable, fitting anyone with hips up to 56”.
Is sexy?	Sexy is a matter of taste of course, but we’re partial to the Black Cat, Jaguar, Cash, and Annie O.
Easiest to get on and off?	The elastic straps of the Undercover Harness make it comfy and simple. No buckles to fuss with!
Fits a wide variety of dildo sizes?	The adjustable o-ring on Terra Firma style harnesses allow you to use almost any dildo you like! Pick up a 4-Ring Pack to make your harness even more versatile.
Is a custom double dil rig?	Outlaw Harnesses like the Annie O are ingeniously designed to hold two dildos—one for the partner being penetrated and one for the harness wearer.
Includes vibration?	The Buzz Me Tender Harness features two pockets that can accommodate a bullet vibrator like the Silver Bullet or a cordless mini-vibe like the Sterling.
Allows for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration?	The Menage a Trois is the only harness that is made particularly for double penetration.
Accommodates a dildo with balls?	Dildos with balls can make an uncomfortable lump underneath a traditional harness. Try a Terra Firma style harness like the Terra Firma Leather, or the Commando, all of which position the entire dildo in front of the harness.
Straps to your thigh?	The Thigh Harness is a great option for folks with hip, back, or mobility issues. Also great for people who want to strap it on and leave genitals completely free for play!
Good for hard packing?	Both the Commando and Undercover harnesses feature minimal hardware, making them more comfortable and less bulky under clothes.
Good for soft packing?	Both the Mr. Right Packing Harness and the Cock Sock are perfect for your day-to-day soft packing needs.

Harness Basics

There are a few basic considerations to keep in mind while picking out a harness:

Materials – Most harnesses are made of leather because it is comfortable to wear and molds to your body shape over time. However, some people prefer vinyl or nylon harnesses because they are easier to clean and vegan.

Style – Harnesses come in two basic models, two strap or g-string. Two-strap harnesses fit around your legs, keep harnesses secure, and generally keep genitals open for play. G-string (also called one-strap harnesses) fit like a thong. People who like g-string harnesses enjoy the friction provided by the strap running between their legs.

Buckles vs. D-Rings – Harness straps are fastened with either buckles or d-rings. Buckles take longer to fasten but never slip. D-rings have a tendency to slip, especially after a harness is worn in, but they are easily adjusted with one hand by pulling on the strap.

The easiest way to decide on a harness is to try it on. If you live near one of our stores, stop by and we’ll let you use our dressing room. Trying on a harness over your clothes gives you a better idea of how a harness fits your unique body, how easy it is for you to adjust, and how comfortable and secure it will be while you’re wearing it.