How To Choose a Harness

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How To Choose a Harness

by Alicia Guinn

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Are you looking for a harness that ...	Try...	Babeland Favorite
Comes in an all-in-one beginner’s kit?	The Bend Over Beginner Kit comes with two silicone dildos, a plush velvet harness, and a mini-vibrator that fits into a clit stimulation pocket on the harness. The Babeland Beginner's Strap-On Kit includes a simple leather harness, mid-size silicone dildo, mini vibrator, and extra O-rings.
Is classic and versatile?	The Terra Firma Leather Harness is a classic. It’s sturdy, comfortable, and easy-to-use. And its interchangeable O-ring is an innovative design that holds almost any dildo on the market.
Is vegan?	Non-leather harnesses include the Bend Over Boyfriend Kit, the Vegan Jaguar Harness, and the Spareparts Joque Harness.
Is the ultimate in style and comfort?	The Jaguar Harness combines sexiness and practicality. Its soft, buttery leather makes for the comfiest harness you’ll ever wear. And it comes in black, silver, or cherry red; it's even available in a vegan style.
Is convertible between one- and two-strap styles?	The Commando Harness can be worn as either a one- or two-strap. A great choice for first time harness buyers who can’t decide between styles, or couples who have different harness preferences.
Is available in larger sizes?	The Spareparts Joque Harness fits up to 65" hips. The sassy Crown Harness fits hips up to 64", and thighs up 28", while riding higher up than most harnesses for better control.
Is sexy?	Sexy is a matter of taste, of course, but we’re partial to the Jaguar, Spareparts Joque, and Commando.
Easiest to get on and off?	The elastic straps of the Undercover Harness make it comfy and simple to strap on; no buckles to fuss with!
Fits a wide variety of dildo sizes?	The adjustable O-ring on Terra Firma style harnesses allow you to use almost any dildo you like! Pick up a 4-Ring Pack to make your harness even more versatile.
Includes vibration?	The Buzz Me Tender Harness features two pockets that can accommodate a bullet vibrator like the Silver Bullet or a cordless mini-vibe like the Babeland Buzz.
Accommodates a dildo with balls?	Dildos with balls can make an uncomfortable lump underneath a traditional harness. Try a Terra Firma style harness like the Terra Firma Leather, or the Commando, all of which position the entire dildo in front of the harness.
Straps to your thigh?	The original Thigh Harness is a great option for folks with hip, back, or mobility issues. Also great for people who want to strap it on and leave genitals completely free for play!
Good for hard packing?	Both the Commando and Undercover harnesses feature minimal hardware, making them more comfortable and less bulky under clothes. The ever-popular Spareparts Joque Harness fits snugly and comfortably against the body under clothes.
Good for soft packing?	Both the Mr. Right Packing Harness and the Cock Sock are perfect for your day-to-day soft packing needs.

Harness Basics

There are a few basic considerations to keep in mind while picking out a harness:

Materials – Most harnesses are made of leather because it is comfortable to wear and molds to your body shape over time. However, some people prefer vinyl or nylon harnesses because they are easier to clean and vegan.

Style – Harnesses come in two basic models, two strap or g-string. Two-strap harnesses fit around your legs, keep harnesses secure, and generally keep genitals open for play. G-string (also called one-strap harnesses) fit like a thong. People who like G-string harnesses enjoy the friction provided by the strap running between their legs.

Buckles vs. D-Rings – Harness straps are fastened with either buckles or D-rings. Buckles take longer to fasten but never slip. D-rings have a tendency to slip, especially after a harness is worn in, but they are easily adjusted with one hand by pulling on the strap.

The easiest way to decide on a harness is to try it on. If you live near one of our stores, stop by and we’ll let you use our dressing room. Trying on a harness over your clothes gives you a better idea of how a harness fits your unique body, how easy it is for you to adjust, and how comfortable and secure it will be while you’re wearing it.