How to Find Your G-spot

Author: Laura Weide

It's not a myth, despite what you may have heard — the G-spot exists, and it loves attention! "G-spot" is the common name for a spot on the front of the vaginal wall through which you can stimulate the urethral sponge, an area of spongy tissue surrounding the urethra. All female-bodied people have a G-spot, but not all respond to G-spot stimulation in the same way. The only way to figure out if you like G-spot stimulation is to start exploring; locating and stimulating the G-spot can lead to orgasm and even ejaculation for many women, and the right sex toy can be indispensable on that journey.

  1. Find it. The G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina towards the belly, right behind the pubic bone; it corresponds to spongy tissue that is wrapped around the urethra. When women are aroused the tissue becomes thickened and can be felt through the vaginal wall. It creates an intense, distinctive sensation when stimulated. For some women, this feeling is similar to the sensation of needing to urinate; if it makes you feel more comfortable, pee before starting your explorations. And for some, stimulation of the G-spot can make them ejaculate.
  2. Turn yourself on. The first step is to get turned on. During arousal, the spongy tissue swells with fluid. When you aren't turned on, the wall of the vagina feels fairly similar all the way around, but when you get aroused the G-spot becomes more firm with blood and other fluids. Grab a vibrator (try the Laya Spot), your favorite sexy movie (check out the ever-popular Pirates), or indulge in a hot fantasy.
  3. Add a finger or toy. Now, insert your finger into your vagina and curve your finger up towards your belly. For more length, try a curved sex toy. The Pure Wand is designed for women to reach their own G-spots. 
  4. Firm strokes. You'll know when you hit the G-spot by the distinctive sensation it creates. Remember, you aren't feeling for something on the surface of the vaginal wall; the urethral sponge is behind it, so you'll need to press. The texture of the G-spot feels somewhat bumpy or crinkly; it's noticeably different than the smooth walls of the vagina. Press firmly and stroke your fingers towards your palm (move them in a "come hither" way). The Ella dildo has an easy handle and perfect curve for hooking into your G-spot — try various degrees of pressure and a range of motions.
  5. Experiment. There is no single "right" technique to find the the G-spot. The size and sensitivity of the G-spot varies a lot; you'll just have to experiment. Some like rhythmic pressure on the G-spot from a curved toy like the Candy Colored Glass Dildo, others like the swooping motion of fingers or a twisting vibrator like the Rabbit Habit. Others really like to have their clitoris stimulated at the same time that their G-spot is stroked. A partner's fingers stroking the G-spot during cunnilingus can feel simply divine. A multi-function toy nudges the G-spot and rubs the clitoris at the same time.
  6. Ejaculate (or not)! Pressure on the G-Spot or the contractions of orgasm can cause female ejaculation from the urethral sponge through the urethra. This fluid is different from urine and similar to men's prostatic fluid. Empty your bladder before sex, so you won't worry about peeing. Ejaculate quantity will probably be less than a teaspoon or two, but sometimes it can be copious. Objects in the vagina may block the uretha, thus preventing ejaculation. Some women ejaculate after the penis, dildo or fingers is removed. While not every woman ejaculates, female ejaculation is not uncommon, and it's perfectly normal (and can feel great!).
  7. Partners and sexual positions. During partner sex there are some positions that are more conducive for hitting the G-Spot than others. Think geometry. Unless your partner has a curved dildo or penis, it's the cervix, not the G-spot, that will most likely be stimulated in the standard missionary pose. Doggy style, or the receptive partner receiving a dildo or penis from behind, puts the G-spot in the bullseye a bit better. You can lift your upper body by supporting your hands against a wall or bed, or with the use of "sex furniture" like the Love Bumper, and create a more angled approach to the vagina. Many women find that if they are on top, they can control penetration for better G-spot stimulation.

G-spot response varies dramatically: remember, there's no one right way to experience pleasure. Rather than turning your explorations into a task or new goal you must achieve, try to approach it with a sense of fun and enjoy all the sensations along the way. Happy sex adventures!