How to Use a Vibrator

Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm — and the powerful, consistent stimulation of a vibrator delivers like nothing else can. For those unfamiliar with the delicious buzz of vibration, these pleasure-providing  sex toys can be a little daunting. Before you buy, check out our How to Choose a Vibrator guide for great tips on choosing the sex toy that's right for you. Once you've got your vibrator of choice in hand, it's time for the fun to begin.

    1. First, set the mood. Give yourself a block of time to play with your new toy, put in some relaxing music. You might feel more comfortable using a vibrator alone for the first time, so you can get used to your body's response without having to think about a partner at the same time.
    2. Run it along your body. No need to rush to the clitoris with that new vibe. Get used to the feeling first by running it over your body—try it on your nipples, thighs and or anywhere you're inspired to explore.
    3. Add the clit. When you're feeling turned on, try holding the vibrator against your clit. Some women find the vibrations intense the first few times; if this is true for you place a towel between you and your toy or use it over your underwear.
    4. Experiment with your sex toy. Vary the pressure, the speed, or the position of the vibrator to discover what feels the best to you. The clitoris has about a jillion nerve endings (okay, more like 4,000), and is often most responsive to vibration. Any vibrator, even those long skinny ones that look great for penetration, can be used on the clit. You might find that as you get more warmed up, you like more intense stimulation. But by all means, try that toy anywhere that feels good.

  1. Add extras. If you really like G-spot play or vaginal penetration combined with clit stimulation, try one of our Dual Action Vibes (Rabbit Vibrators). If your toy has a flared base, like the Vibrating Mistress, throw a condom on it and try it for anal penetration — vibration is great for relaxing anal muscles. And though the vaginal walls aren't as sensitive to vibration as the clit, your vibrator is sure to double as a dildo, especially if you choose a toy made of a soft material.

'Don't Give Up' Tips

  • A drop or two of lube, like BabeLube, will make your vibrator forays deliciously slippery.
  • Men like vibes, too! Try sharing a sex toy like the We-Vibe II, or snuggling up to the Duet Vibrating Cock Ring.
  • If sharing your sex toy, using it anally, or just to make cleanup easier, slide a condom on it first.
  • Clean your vibrator with soap and water after use.
  • Harder vibrators, like the Slimlines, and electric vibrators, like the Hitachi Magic Wand, usually have stronger vibrations than toys made of softer materials.