How to Enjoy 69: Getting the Most out of Mutual Oral Sex

1. Line Up: The "69" sex position gets its name from the shape of the numbers. The nine looks like an upside-down six and the two numbers fit snugly together like puzzle pieces. So in order to perform and to receive mutual oral sex, two bodies in the sixty-nine position need to be lying head to toe. Successful mutual oral sex comes from finding the most comfortable way possible for you and your partner to be, well, end-to-end. Taking your respective sizes into consideration, there are lots of different positions to try (have fun trying!). A basic position involves one partner lying down on top of the other partner so that you're facing each other’s genitals. The partner on top can lean on his/her elbows for easier movement of the head, neck and upper body. Lying on your sides facing each other’s bodies is another position which can allow for more freedom of movement (you can rest your heads on each other’s thighs — instant pillows!).
2. Around the House:  Utilize furniture at home to make 69 easier. Place pillows or cushions under your heads or hips and you'll have easier access to each other's sweet spots. Ramps and Wedges, angled foam cushions made to be used for sex, can also help your positioning.
3. All in the Timing: One criticism of 69-ing is that splitting one's focus between giving and receiving oral sex at once can be distracting. While the concept of mutual oral sex is to give and get, it doesn’t necessarily have to happen totally simultaneously. You and your partner can take turns giving and getting stimulation for certain periods of time, so you each get a chance to concentrate solely on creating or receiving sensation.
4. Tune in to your partner. Check in with your partner to ensure that both of you are getting what you want from the sixty-nine position. Listen to your partner for signs she or he is feeling good — moans, heavy breathing. Take a moment to ask quick yes-or-no questions — nothing complicated. A single-word question will do: "Harder?", "More?", "Faster?", etc. Encourage your partner to do the same for you, or just speak up to get what you want.
   
5. Accessorize! You can also mix things up by using your hands and toys along with your mouth; try small wireless vibrators like the Finger Fun or the Isis (both fit right on a finger to easily use on clits, vulvas, penises and testicles alike). You can also use dildos, butt plugs (try the Little Flirt  for beginners), or sensation toys like the Starburst Tickler.
6. Enjoy the ride. Remember to take your time with 69 - it's not a race to see who can come first! (And if you do come first, make sure your partner has your full attention afterward.) Take your time and enjoy making your partner feel great and vice-versa. Make the act more of a tease and even a challenge with a blindfold or Supercuffs wrist restraints. For handjobs or vaginal penetration during 69, try silicone lube like Eros bodyglide, which is super-concentrated to last and last.