A Dirty Word: How a Sex Writer Reclaimed Her Sexuality

A Dirty Word: How a Sex Writer Reclaimed Her Sexuality
by Steph Auteri

Steph Auteri is a sex writer. In her fifteen years as a journalist, she has reviewed sex toys, attended sex parties, researched sexual health, and even participated in “cuddle parties.” There’s only one small problem—a secret she’s been keeping… Her sex drive is in the gutter. A beautiful and hilarious mixture of cultural essays and poignant personal stories, A Dirty Word shines a light on what it’s like to feel broken, only to realize that there is no right way to be sexual. From her earliest sexual experiences, Auteri felt there must be something wrong with her. As an adult, her career in sex writing was meant to be a type of shock therapy—a way to fix her “sexual dysfunction”. But her career, exciting as it was, could not provide a roadmap through her struggles with a low libido, painful sex, fertility problems, negative self-image, marriage woes, and the aftermath of sexual assault. In A Dirty Word, Auteri boldly exposes her own stumbles and triumphs as she explores topics like consent, body image, sex-negativity, and the seeming impossibility of raising a daughter in a culture that is constantly twisting female sexuality to fit its own needs. In the end, Auteri has found peace through one startling realization: she doesn’t need to be “fixed” after all. 248 pages, 2018