
This Labor Day weekend, like most weekends in the Seattle store, people flocked in looking for sex toys, books, videos, and advice. We have all types and fashions of people who come in, however, this weekend was decidedly transgender! Just blocks down the street at the convention center,
Gender Odyssey was underway. ?An international conference focused on the thoughtful exploration of gender,? Gender Odyssey is a yearly gathering for transgender folks and their allies to come together to learn, socialize, and grow together. This year,
among other topics, there were dialogs and sessions on community, legal issues, health, race, trans youth, transition, and of course, sex!On Friday and Saturday, I saw dozens of trans men coming in to buy some bulge?our
mini soft packs went from stocked to sold out in a day! There were trans women checking out books, toys, and chatting up the staff. And there were allies?the boyfriends and girlfriends?who came in to buy
trans porn for their nighttime parties and fun!I didn't think I was going to go, but with an insider's tip, I was able to secure a free one day ticket through the generous
Gay City. On Sunday I went down to see what all the fuss was about, and with a little ninja skill, I was able to sneak in for a second day on Monday! At the top of the convention center, up the escalators, past the art and gardens, trannies abounded, passing between the six large rooms that held the various sessions.Many of the sessions I went to were discussion based; some of the dialog became rather passionate but always remained friendly. In ?The Feminine Ideal? session, people pieced together and tore apart the ideas of femininity that the media and our culture feed us, a multifaceted dialog with an equal mixture of consensus and debate.In the well attended ?Trans Mental Health? session, Jay Williams skillfully moderated a discussion on the state of mental health care for trans folks. There was a large percentage of mental health professionals present, some of whom were transgender themselves, and although some of the discussion vilified the health care industry, they were a welcome, gracious, and understanding bunch! Many perspectives were given a voice.In ?The Rules of Attraction,? we brainstormed and discussed
terms that don't exist, such as ?a non pejorative for people attracted to trans people specifically,? for ?dykes attracted to men,? for ?non-gendered sexuality,? etc. We did the same for
sex rules that suck, such as ?tops never bottom,? ?sex in private, in a bed, in the dark, with two people, in a relationship,? and ?if there is passion, communication (and toys!) aren't needed for it to work.?But there wasn't only talk talk talk! On Monday, along the walls of a room, dozens of trans men took off their shirts and showed off their chests! There were shirtless cute guys and hunky guys, shirtless slim guys and big guys all lined up to watch and talk to! The scars of their surgeries ranged from large to minute?often making them all the more attractive. The point was to offer a time to ask questions about and share the various results of different surgeons for guys considering chest surgery (the info of each man's surgeon was written up on posters behind them). I had no interest in female-to-male chest surgery for myself, yet it was anything but lost time!

The conference was finished off with ?
She's a Boy I Knew,? an autobiographical documentary of Gwen Haworth's transition from male to female. The pleasantly well-made DIY film was largely told through the reactions, feelings, and memories of her parents, sisters, wife, and best friend in candid, loving, sad, and funny interviews. Throughout, voice overs, animations, and skillful editing provided an intriguing and humorous look at one transgendered woman's journey.
Gender Odyssey was an educational and uplifting experience. For many, there are few times and places when so many people can experience community and love over an issue that often isolates and confuses. Lives are sure to have been positively changed, and will continue to be improved until next year's Gender Odyssey strikes again!to female. The pleasantly well-made DIY film was largely told through the reactions, feelings, and memories of her parents, sisters, wife, and best friend in candid, loving, sad, and funny interviews. Throughout, voice overs, animations, and skillful editing provided an intriguing and humorous look at one transgendered woman's journey.
Gender Odyssey was an educational and uplifting experience. For many, there are few times and places when so many people can experience community and love over an issue that often isolates and confuses. Lives are sure to have been positively changed, and will continue to be improved until next year's Gender Odyssey strikes again!