Tell me a little bit about how and why the Vivid Ed videos were started? What is different about these videos as opposed to other How-To vids? I really wanted to bring my specific vision of sex education to the world of video. The videos are unique in the sex ed genre because we really take advantage of the DVD format, and viewers can watch the scenes with instruction or without, which has not been done before. The videos feature very specific and explicit techniques, which I think is incredibly important. There's nothing vague or implied, we get right in there and show you how to do it! Plus, we've got these cool graphics --- kind of like VH-1's pop up video --- which are part of each scene and offer extra information. I am really proud of these movies, and try to push the envelope with them. In the fellatio movie, we cover techniques for uncircumcised cocks and prostate stimulation, which no other fellatio instructional has done. In the cunnilingus movie, we really focus on cunnilingus, rather than show it as foreplay or what leads to intercourse, we stay on point!

Your new book, Opening Up, has been getting a lot of great reviews. What prompted you to write this book?� I think that there is a solid body of work on swinging and polyamory, but there are lots of people exploring non-monogamy who don't identify with those communities, and they've been left out of the conversation. I wanted to explore the diversity of relationship styles beyond monogamy. I interviewed over a hundred people from all different walks of life and their stories are really the heart of the book.

What was the most interesting thing you learned from the couples you interviewed for Opening Up?� I didn't talk to just couples - I interviewed singles, couples, triads, quads, circles of five, lots of different combinations! I learned so much from each person I talked to and realized that life really is in the details. No one does non-monogamy the same way. It's all about crafting a relationship that's custom made for the people involved.

What projects are you working on now? I am editing my latest video for Vivid-Ed, The Expert Guide to Threesomes, which will be out in December. I have a new book coming out from Quiver Books in 2009. It's called The Anal Sex Positions Guide, and it's a how-to book focused specifically on positions. It's illustrated with gorgeous softcore photos. It's the anal sex coffee table book I've always wanted on my living room table! I am writing a second book for Quiver which is all about sex toys. I am working on two other books, too.

What is your favorite anal sex toy? I cannot pick just one! Of course, I have to say the Tristan butt plug fromVixen, since I helped design it and it's named for me. I think the Mistress is the best dildo for strap-on anal sex, especially for beginners. Now it comes with a vibrator, too, which rocks.

What is your favorite non-anal sex toy? I have fallen in love with a new strap-on harness recently, the JaguarHarness from Aslan. In Cherry Red. The leather is smooth and gorgeous, it fits like a glove, and it's so comfortable, I could wear it all day!

What is your favorite non-anal sex toy? I have fallen in love with a new strap-on harness recently, the JaguarHarness from Aslan. In Cherry Red. The leather is smooth and gorgeous, it fits like a glove, and it's so comfortable, I could wear it all day!