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blowupdollI don't usually read the spam comments that we get for the blog. Often they're just the standard ads for Viagra and I don't pay much attention. This one below caught my eye:
I would like to suggest an idea for a new kind of sex toy.It combines a ?sexy woman mockup? and a real but ugly woman:A ?beauty suit? is a combination of a sex doll and a real but ugly woman. The woman puts on the suit, with only her eyes, nose, mouth and ?holy hole? exposed. Portions of the woman that are not so ugly can also be exposed.FANCY ADDITIONAL SPECULATIONS:And the thing in the suit can also be a man or a dog or something?Likewise there can be ?handsome-guy suits?.If the woman is very fat, we can make a suit which is like an exoskeleton that simulates a thin head and body with thin arms and legs but connects to the woman?s real hands and feet and ?holy hole?. The whole configuration would represent a particular body posture such that a man can ?operate? this half-fake half-real configuration with both physical and mental satisfaction.
Besides the obvious problems with this (it's disgusting, completely offensive and I won't justify it by dissecting all of the things that are wrong with it) is how anyone who visited our website and read the blog could ever think that this was something that we would want to read.My guess is that this comment was not posted seriously. Instead, it's a knee-jerk reaction to feeling threatened. In the male-dominated world of the sex industry, apparently stores that are owned by women and focus on women's pleasure create problems.Babeland has always had male customers and I love talking to them. However, every now and then, someone will come in and say "don't you have any toys for men?" in a tone of voice that says "I deserve to see my desires catered to me everywhere I go - why isn't that immediately apparent to me in this store?".I'm truly happy that Babeland carries many, many toys for men. I don't want us ever to stop. But, if a store wanted to carry only toys focusing on women's pleasure, that would be alright with me. The sex industry is overwhelmingly driven by what men want and if women want to carve out a tiny corner of their own, they should have the right to do that.It's sad to me that some people feel so much fear when confronted with ideas (women's pleasure is important) or values (all pleasure is equally important) that are different from their own. Some people seek out places where their dominant status is no longer dominant. I think it helps us grow, even if it can be a little scary. For others, these experiences bring out the most aggressive and offensive ways of reasserting their dominance - with results like the comment above. Is it the perceived (or actual) loss of power? Maybe it brings up feelings of insecurity long buried.What comments like this prove to me is that Babeland has succeeded in creating a space that is different from the mainstream but not closed off from it. The fact that people can find us and be so threatened by what we do that they will write comments about "beauty suits" means that for every one of those people, there are hundreds of others who find us and absorb a little bit of our message and take it back out into the world with them. And that makes me really happy.Also, "holy hole"? Ew.