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mensrestroomI've been thinking a lot recently about equal parenting for couples - that is, both couples share the responsibilities of taking care of the children; not just the fun stuff, but the laundry and the cooking and the diapers and the vomit. The New York Times recently had an article all about this where they discussed divisions of labor and how they are often gendered (in heterosexual couples). Women see themselves as responsible for everything regarding their children - how they look, if thank you cards get sent, etc, making it hard to turn over responsibility. Additionally, men are raised to spend their time not thinking about taking care of children so the learning curve might be a bit higher.The article has some interesting ideas for how to divide up roles and deal with the stresses that come up (different ideas of what constitutes "clean" for instance). The article also explores lesbian parents who struggle with the bond felt by the birth mother, for instance, but seem to divvy up roles much more naturally without the gendered expectations.I won't summarize the whole article but I thought of it when I learned that there's a website called Daddy Types that lists where in NYC there are changing tables in men's restrooms. I don't go into men's restrooms very often (or never) but it had never occurred to me to even wonder whether there were changing tables. And of course there aren't. It's just another way that we set up gendered norms for society through subtle but powerful means. The message is: men don't change diapers (certainly they don't in public) so why would they need changing tables in restrooms?I found out about the Daddy Types website because they're going to list the Babeland Brooklyn store! We have one restroom (for everyone) and it has a changing table. The media has once again colluded in producing social norms around who changes babies by touting how interesting this is for "moms" instead of "parents".As there are more couples who give the equal parenting thing a shot (and more gay men adopting children) , I hope advocacy for changing tables really takes off. I know I'll be part of the fight.