Big black leather cuffs, shiny metal objects, long complicated whips; Adding bondage or sensation toys into your sex play can often seem really intimidating. Or, like a slippery slope that will lead to you, on a leash, in a mask, in a club. But it doesn't necessarily turn out that way. Have you ever been spanked? Has your lover ever held your hands above your head, even for a moment so that you couldn't move them? Did you like it? Then welcome to kink. There are tons of ways to be kinky that are not your stereotypical whips and chains. We call it Kink Lite.Claire Cavanah recently gave a tour of some of these items for Em & Lo on Daily Bedpost. She mentions some of my favorite kink lite toys:

• The Tickled Pink Restraints: Although I love black and silver together, these handcuffs are sexy, not too bulky, easy to get on and off and have everything you need to do the job right.
• Pinwheel: most people don't pick this up because they don't know what to do with it but it's a great sensation toy. Just roll it over your body and see what happens when you vary the speed, the pressure or the location.
• Lollipop: When we first got this toy in the store, we of course wanted to see what it felt like so we could describe it to customers. One of my coworkers gave it a swing at my ass and boy did it bite! The result was unexpected but fantastic.