In the first installment of this series, I blathered on about how great the prostate was, because it is that great. Last night, I was teaching a How to Please Your Man workshop and a workshop attendee asked me a great question: "what if your man doesn't want to try internal stimulation?"Touch�. We can discuss how fantastic it is until the cows come home but the fact remains that anal play carries around a lot of baggage - that it's dirty or nasty are the main ones but for guys there is an extra fear - that it means you're gay. Additionally, letting someone penetrate your ass means giving over some control and perhaps feeling a little vulnerable, things that may be foreign to guys who are told to be take-charge during sex their whole lives.So, if you have someone who is reluctant for any or all of these reasons what do you do? Communication and learning here are key. We believe myths because we don't know any better. Once we're corrected, we can reconsider something in a different light. A workshop, book or movie can be a great way to introduce a topic. Additionally, taking time to have a conversation about your sex life away from the bedroom is a great way to bring up and addresses these issues so that you can find out what his hesitations are.After you do all of this, he may change his mind. But, it's important to remember that he still may not. Anal play might remain on his "no" list and he has a right to that, just like you have a right to not do the things that are on your "no" list.If you can address his issues enough that he is interested in trying it, then stay tuned for the next installment!