Wow. Dr. Laura Berman was on Oprah yesterday for a whole show devoted to "the Talk" and how to do it right. She dispensed a lot of advice on how to promote healthy sexuality in teen girls and even coached one mom through the Talk with her teenage daughter. I think what Dr. Berman had to say was right on. For instance:

"You want to start these conversations early with your kids?before they find themselves in the circumstances where they're having to make those healthy sexual decisions."

and

"Feeling good about their bodies. Feeling good about their genitals. Feeling good about their sexual function. Feeling empowered about who they are as people and as sexual beings. And then that makes the path so much easier when they're in their teen years."

and, for a 10 year old:

"We're going to show her a picture of her vulva and [say], 'This is your clitoris and it has lots of sensations, so some girls find that it feels good to touch themselves there, and that's totally normal,'"

But the best part comes when Dr. Berman recommends that mothers buy their daughters vibrators. Why? Her answer is amazing:

"When they're 15, 16 years old and moving into the dating realm you can also introduce the concept of vibrators... You're not teaching them about how to perform oral sex or about sexual positions, you're teaching them about their own body and pleasuring themselves and taking the reigns of their own sexuality so they don't ever have to depend on any other teenage boy to do it for them... all those raging hormoes and all those sexual feelings she can take care of herself."

Vibrators for teenage girls on daytime TV? Oprah just went Barbara Walters one better! My favorite part of this video was that not only did Oprah not even flinch when this was mentioned - she defended it! Rock on, Oprah. Might I recommend the Blueberry Buzz or the Stowaway?I also love how much the concept of pleasure was incorporated into this discussion. It was not just about making sure daughters don't get STIs or don't get pregnant. It was about creating a sexually empowered person who knows their own pleasure and can make healthy relationship decisions. Truly awesome.Jezebel has the video here. You can also read Dr. Berman's guide to how to have "the talk" here. It's a great starter kit for any parent wondering what to do.