I just discovered that New York's Museum of Sex (perhaps the best $20 you can spend unless you're buying a Grapevine Vibe) has created a website they call the MoSexIndex. It lets you create a personalized account that searches for sex-related websites that you would be interested in every week. I'm filling out my survey right now and I've answered questions about my sexual preferences, if I'm interested in porn, erotica, oral sex, lesbians, latex, feet.... you name they've asked it. Not only am I having fun, but I'm really thinking about what I like to watch and do sexually.This reminds me of an exercise that we sometimes do in our workshops. I've seen it in a lot of places so I don't know who to give the credit to. It's called the Yes/Maybe/No chart. It works like this: each person in a couple (and you can always do this by yourself) makes a list of every sexual activity they can think of and places it in one of the three categories. "yes" means they do this thing already or would be interested in doing it. "Maybe" means they've thought about it or maybe tried it once or twice but aren't quite as sure as the "Yes" category. In the "No" category go things that you feel like you probably won't ever want to do.If you're doing this with a partner, you can look at each other's lists and see where you have overlaps. You might find that you've both been interested in trying something but just didn't know it!It's important to remember two things with this exercise. First, you can list everything from "cuddling" to "extreme bondage". This list is really up to you and how you want to define "sexual activity". Second, your Yes/Maybe/No categories don't have to be rigid once you've made this list. Things can move from one category to another over time. They can even move over the course of a few days or an evening.You could also try this list with sex toys. Maybe you know for sure that you'd like to try the Little Flirt, you might like to try the Ripple but you know you don't want to try the Pearl Plug. Or maybe you already own a Sterling, you'd like to try the Sonic Ring but you're really not sure about the Teardrop cockring.I love this exercise - whether I'm with a partner or not. I've done it multiple times and I'm sure I'll keep on doing it as I learn more and as my tastes change. Try it!