We asked, and you told us, all about your hottest masturbation tips. Thecontest entries ranged from practical (?Don?t forget batteries?) to thefanciful (?the gourmet?s little helper: olive oil?). We hope these tipswill inspire even more self love among you all!
The Winners
Our winners received their very own copies of The Big Book of Masturbation.
Switch it up. "Variety is your friend. If you're a lefty,change up and try your right hand. If you do it to music, experimentwith silence. Like to do it flat on your belly? Roll over, Rover,and use that Moby for some big fun. Not onlywill you come in new and fun ways, you may also attract luck. Accordingto studies conducted by the author of the 'Luck Factor,' the peoplewith the most luck court variety and chance. So embracechange-and your favorite sex toy-and come!"
Absolute indulgence. "My favorite way to masturbate isreclining on the floor in front of a large gilded mirror that was oncemy grandmother?s. I'm freshly bathed, shaved, perfumed, coifed,bejeweled and made-up for the occasion. I become the woman I am in myfantasies?a submissive vixen from the 1930's. I warm myself up withBillie Holiday?s music, candles, a glass of wine and a little 'eyecontact'. I love watching myself get fucked?If it's the right time ofyear, I lay under an open window after, watch the stars, and just enjoythe smell and feel of a cool breeze and my very happy body."
Make yourself wait. "I find that if I'm about to come I holdoff a little and breathe so that it still feels good but I don't allowmyself to come just yet. I do that as many times as I can, and then Ilet myself have it and let me tell you, it makes for a massiveexplosion. The build-up is so intense that it rolls all those littleorgasms into one giant kaboom!!!!!"
Don?t worry, be happy. "My favorite tip for masturbation isthinking of the thing or person that you would like to have sex withand let that turn you on and don't worry about anyone or any of theeveryday problems, just enjoy masturbating and don't worry aboutanything else!"
Masturbation Inspiration
Wondering which tips topped your list? Keep reading?
Come to your senses: Proving that the mind is the biggest sexorgan, a number of our entrants stressed the importance of fantasy,erotic visualization, and taking the time to really get "in the mood."Stimulate your senses with the help of our Aphrodisiacs Kit. Pleasant memories are evocative as well:one woman wrote to tell us how one particularly vivid memory of anex-lover could bring her off "within seconds;" another?s intimatecombination of soap and massage aroused her instantly.
Tub time: The bathroom proved to be a popular place forjacking or jilling off. The feel of warm water flowing over the skincan feel very sensuous, and it?s easy to position yourself under thefaucet or shower head while sitting down. The Hawaiian Vibe is aflowery fun addition to the bath and the small but powerful Finger FunVibe clips onto your finger. Add some color with Big Red, a sparklysuction-cup dildo. "Yes, the water bill may be higher, but trustme...it?s worth it!" wrote one contestant.
Mirror, mirror: When it comes to stimulating the senses, manywriters related how watching themselves in the mirror was a fantasticturn-on. Indulge your voyeuristic tendencies with a video or two, likeEyes of Desire 2 or Looking In. As one runner-up entry put it: "Youknow how it can be exciting to see a partner orgasm? It's not too badwatching yourself, either."
Do yourself differently: One way to make masturbation moreexciting is to change the way you do it: use a different toy, try awhole different method, or venue. One contestant related how herelectric toothbrush really opened her eyes (and other places) to thepossibilities of different toys. Looking for inspiration? Try suchnoted books as Sex For One and Celebrating Orgasm. Among thesuggestions we got from readers were such things as switching hands, orsexy self-talk: "It's surprising what a bit of vocalization can do."
Breathe deeply: many people wrote to tell us how controlledbreathing can lead to more intense orgasms. One entry consisted of thisromantic description: "Imagine your entire pelvic girdle is a bowl,breath into that bowl, but do not let it spill over. The sensations areintense if you can connect to the shape, texture, spaciousness andcurves of the bowl."
