by Rachel Venning   

Cunnilingus — oral sex performed on women — is the holy grail ofsatisfying many women. So if you haven't honed your oral sex technique,you're most likely going to suffer some cunnilingus performanceanxiety. Cultural myths aboutnasty vaginas just add to the pressure. But cunnilingus performed wellwill endear you to a partner like nothing else can. So whether you're aseasoned muffdiver or a late bloomer just getting started, here area few oral sex tips to improve your technique.

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1. Be prepared with some sexy goods. Have the She Comes First Kit on hand and you'll find the Babelicious flavored lube, Babeland Nubby G, and various accoutrements (including She Comes First, by Ian Kerner) will help tranform you from a novice into an oral sex master. (Plus you save $10 when you purchase all the toys together!)
2. Study up. In addition to these cunnilingus techniques, you'll find great oral sex tips in the DVD Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Cunnilingus and the book The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus.
3. Lick her like an ice cream cone... Big soft licks from stem to sternwith a wide flat tongue stimulate all the nerves in her genital area.Go deliciously slow to make her feel like a yummy dessert beingsavored, or speed it up a bit and focus more on the clitoris topush her toward orgasm. You can sweeten things up by applying a tasty lube like BabeLicious flavored lubricant, available in four delicious flavors.
4. Dive in. Build up the intensity level gradually. Once you're intoit, use your whole face. Bury yourself in her pussy, get your tongue inas far as possible, use your nose for more pressure. Not only does thisfeel good physically, it lets her know you're really into her tasteand smell. Hint: if your eyelids aren't sticky, you're not doing itright.
5. Insert two fingers in her vagina while licking her clit. Curl those fingers up towards your tongue, capturing her clit and G-spot between your mouth and fingers. As your tongue licks up, pull down with your fingers; get a rhythm going. Rev things up even more by slipping a G-spot dildo into her while you're going down.
6. Let your lover straddle your face. If lying back during cunnilingus istoo passive for her, let her hop on top. From there, she can control thepressure and area of contact during oral sex. To make this position even more fun, gettied down to the bed before she mounts you using some restraints, and maybe she'll even bossyou around with firm directives: "stick your tongue out," "open yourmouth," "suck it, boy," and so on. Bottomy munchers will, well, lick itup.
7. Mix it up. If your idea of performing cunnilingus is to just lick up and down, up and down,("fencepainting"), chances are that it'll get boring to your partnerafter a while. Vary your movements, add pressure, use your lips, breathand teeth in addition to your tongue, change positions, use yourhands — get your whole creative body involved.
8. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Most women orgasm in response to rhythmic stimulation, so if you're in a groove that's building her up,don't suddenly change what you're doing. Finding the balance betweenvariety and consistency is the art to being an oral sex expert.
9. Suck her into your mouth. Gentle suction is a nice variation on thelicks and downward pressure of most cunnilingus. While you've got anice piece of her sucked in your mouth, lick it while maintaining thesuction.
10. Lick her asshole. Use a barrier for hygiene (try Glyde Dental Dams), or if she's veryclean and you don't penetrate, you may choose bare tongue on skin. Theanus is rich in nerve endings, so all the varieties of oralstimulation — licking, sucking, nibbling — can feel wonderful. Ask her if she'd like to weara butt plug like the Little Flirt for an added thrill.
11. Keep it wet. The juicier your make it, the better it feels. Experiment with edibles like Babeland Lickable Oil, some flavored lubricant or some lube that warms when you blow on it.
12. Get as good as you give! Make a gift of the Blow Job Expert Kit, and you both may get so good you'll never leave the house.

How do you know if she likes it?

With your face buried in her cunt and your ears muffled by hercreamy thighs, it can be hard to talk about how things are going. Solook for more subtle signs of her enjoyment. If she raises her hips tomeet your mouth, that's a very good sign. A lubricating vagina, swelling vulva, and labia that spread open as they become engorged are asure sign that she's responding favorably. So is a growing clitoris. Anall over skin flush, rapid breathing, and writhing are clues. Clutchingthe sheets is excellent, and so are hands on the back of your headpushing you in for more.