Have you ever been in the middle of having sex when your partner (or one of your partners) says something that just totally throws you off your stride? It is really distracting when it happens. You are suddenly in your head thinking about whatever it is that was said and your partner is laying their thinking ?Hello! We were in the middle of something here!? If you are lucky you can get out of your head fast enough to snap back into action and get everything going again. If you?re not lucky you will keep thinking and not be able to concentrate on what you are supposed to be doing and both (or all) of you will end up dissatisfied.The other day when I was in the middle of licking my girlfriend?s pussy, she starts instructing me to use the rough part of my tongue. I normally love it when she talks during sex because it really turns me on. I really don?t mind when she tells me what she wants, either. That can be a major turn-on too. I don?t know if I was feeling especially emotionally vulnerable on this particular day or what, but her words really threw me for a loop. Suddenly I was thinking crazy stuff like ?What, now I?m not doing a good enough job, and you have to instruct me,? ?I?ve never done that before. Who did you get that from?? ?What?s wrong with the way I?ve been doing it?? etc. etc.While I was doing all this thinking, my baby was steadily losing interest in sex. I wasn?t doing what she was asking me to do and I wasn?t doing a very good job at what I had already been doing. Once I realized that her interest was waning, I shook my head and got back to business. I told myself to forget my petty insecurities and get back to work. I stuck my tongue out as far as I could and gave her the rough part of my tongue. I licked every part of her pussy with the rough part of my tongue and didn't stop. Just like that, there was a complete about-face and we were suddenly speeding towards ecstasy. The morals of this story are: Stay out of your head during sex unless you are fantasizing. Don?t question, just do. Listen to your partner. And most importantly, don?t forget to lick with the rough part of your tongue sometimes.