Our Tips for Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Woman
by Kaisha
Many people think of multiple orgasms as the Holy Grail of sex acts: a highly coveted prize, but most likely the stuff of folklore. Fact is, plenty of women have had multiples, often by accident or surprise! Not everyone can have (or wants to have) multiple orgasms, but trying it out is at least half the fun. Here are Babeland's ten tips for getting you there.
- Start with a single orgasm. Hey, you gotta walk before you can run! Masturbation is a double-whammy of pleasure and self-discovery. Create a comfortable space, allow plenty of time, and try a great clitoral vibrator like the touch-responsive Better Than Chocolate vibrator.
- Keep up the foreplay. No need to rush through kissing, or to speed up the nipple-pinching, or to gloss over cunnilingus. For solo sex, tease yourself by slowing down or stopping, then starting up again.
- Make the clit your BFF. With more than 6000 nerve endings, the clitoris was made for pleasure. Try stroking with the fingers and/or tongue, sucking, blowing on it softly...whatever works. If the clit responds well to intense stimulation, try the Hitachi Magic Wand, a tried-and-true orgasm powerhouse with multiple speeds. For a more compact and cordless option, try the rechargeable Jimmyjane Form 2; two vibrating "ears" surround the clit with four vibration modes and five settings.
- Say, "What up, G(-spot)?"As arousal builds, the G-spot swells and becomes easier to find (hint: it's about two inches into the vagina, on the wall closest to the belly button). And rubbing it can incite all kinds of animal noises and, sometimes, female ejaculation. Try a curved toy like the adorably bulbous and rechargeable Bubbles Vibe from Fun Factory, or the delectably firm Pure Wand.
- Get on top. When you're on top, the speed and depth of penetration, along with friction against your clit, are all up you (and it leaves your partner's hands free to roam your body!). Rock everyone?s world by adding a vibrating cock ring to the mix. The stretchy silicone Ophoria V Ring is a great place to start — just position the vibrator up to vibrate your clit, or down for his balls. To make sure both parties get in on the vibrating fun, try a double-vibrating cock ring like the touch-sensitive Duet Vibrating Cock Ring.
- Get your partner behind you. Doggy-style sex is a favorite at Babeland; it allows for deep thrusting and ease of G-spot stimulation, plus your partner has easy digital access to your clit. Got the Mystic Wand handy? It's super-powerful with six vibration functions, and is battery-operated (read: no cords, no limitations). For the ultimate in doggy-style fun, pair the Mystic Wand with the Love Bumper sex furniture, designed to keep you propped up, comfy, and coming back for more.
- Butt in. Whether you're a curious novice or a seasoned anal sex master, this could be a good time to make friends with your butt. Be sure to apply plenty of thick lube, like Sliquid Sassy Booty, since the butt doesn't self-lubricate. Anal play can be fun when you're relaxed, ready, and lubed up, so be sure you're listening to your body and communicating with your partner. A gentle finger entering slowly can feel great, as can a beginner butt plug like the Little Flirt, and a gently thrusting penis or dildo (like the narrow, semi-realistic Vibrating Mistress) might cause you to see stars.
- Mix, match, and multi-task. If one of the above activities is good, more is better! There's no reason to limit yourself to just one thing. Even if penetration has already started, try going back to a little foreplay. If you've found her G-spot with her fingers, try performing cunnilingus at the same time. Anal play is a blast, but what happens when you use a vibrator on the clit simultaneously? Add and subtract ingredients to make the most appealing of menus.
- Relax, don't do it. Once you've got a good, strong orgasm brewing, challenge yourself by not coming. As you approach your peak, breathe deeply and count to ten before you get back into it. Teasing can be incredibly pleasurable...hold back until you simply can't take it anymore. When that moment comes after you've refrained for so long, the release will be astounding (and might allow you to have a few orgasms instead of just one). If you're exploring multiple orgasms with a partner, check out The Multi-Orgasmic Couple for more tips on how to build orgasmic energy together.
- Don't let orgasm #1 stop you. Once the orgasm begins, and if you're not too sensitive to the continuous stimulation, keep doing what you've been doing. Just when it appears as though one orgasm is ending, another could follow on its heels; the second (and third, and fourth) orgasm may feel different than the first, but it's worth exploring the full spectrum of your orgasmic capabilities. Keep your body and mind receptive to what may come, and you might be surprised!
Any and all of these can help you on your path to becoming multi-orgasmic, but don?t lose heart if it doesn?t happen the first time (or the second, or the third). Orgasmic exploration is its own reward, regardless of the outcome &mdash multiple orgasms are just icing on the very tasty cake. Happy exploring!
