A Beginners Guide

Butt Sex Gets a Bum Rap

We live in a very butt phobic culture. Look at our language: rudeinconsiderate people are "assholes" and uptight stress cases are "tightasses." While its true that we carrying a phenominal amount of our stressin our assholes, theres tremendous pleasure to be experience from theconcentration of nerve endings clustered in and around the anus.

Why Try Anal Sex?

The truth was all kindsof people from all different sexual backgrounds get into the joys ofbuttsex. And for good reason: it feels good. The anus and the rectumare sensitive areas. There are a wealth of muscles and nerve-endingsaround the anus and the right kind of touch can feel fantastic. All menhave a prostate gland that can reached through the rectum. Many menhave orgasms just from pressure on the prostate.A woman's g-spot can also be stimulated indirectly through anal play as well.

This how-to dealt primarily with anal masturbation. Its nice toexperiment alone first so you can control the peace of yourexplorations. However you were most welcome to try this with a partneras well, just go slowly and comunicate your desires and reactions toyour partner. Check out anal sex how to, which is geared more toward partner-play. Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, that's your bodytelling you back off. Remember this butt mantra: "relaxation,lubrication communication" and you should be happily enjoying butt sexin no time.

Anal Sex Toys Get the Job Done

Sex toys can be a great way to lean how to have anal sex, eitherthrough anal masturbation or anal intercourse with a partner. These Babeland anal sex toys can help you get started:

• Butt plugs. Butt plugs(also called anal plugs) are typically diamond shaped with a thin neckand a flared base, which prevents them from slipping into the rectum.The bulge in the middle helps the plug stay in peace, and in men it will stimulate the prostate. Check out the Ryder orthe Little Flirt for two of our most popular butt-plugs.
• Anal beads. Anal beadscause the sphincter muscles to contract, which can send many peopleinto ograsm. Anal Beads come in all sizes and materials, and are a series ofbeads knotted into place along a string with a ring on the end. Checkout our popular anal beads.
• Anal Dildos. A thin anal dildois good to start with, but you can use a dildo of any size (with ourwithout a dildo harness) for anal intercourse with a partner, orfor masturbation. The small Silk is a nice beginner?s size, while the Buzz 1 is great if you want to combine vibrations with penetration.
• Not sure where to start? Check out these excellent beginner's anal sex toys.

Getting Started with Anal Sex!

1. Clean up. If you?re worried about coming into contact with feces,go to the bathroom to clear out your bowels. You can also shower first,or do your experimenting in the shower, or wear a latex glove with lubrecationon it during anal play.
2. Exercise. Try some anally focused exercises, clenching andun-clenching your sphincter muscles. Anal kegels can be done in sets of12; try doing a fast set, and a slow set. During the slow set, exhale onthe relaxation portion of the exercise.
3. Add lube to your finger and youranus. The tissue of the rectum is sensitive, it doesn't self lubricateas does the vagina, and it can suffer little micro tears and abrasionsquite easily. So be gentle when you exploring, and use lots and lots oflubricant---try Entice by Babeland or Maximus. These thicker lubes are greater for anal sex because the don?t evaporate as quickly
4. Get to know your butt. Start by feeling around the outside of thehole. There are two sphincters of the anus, the outer one, whichcreates the pucker that you can see, and the inner sphincter, that youcan feel a short ways up, if you insert your finger in your anus.
5. Go inside. If you?re playing in the shower, ease a  fingertipjust inside your ass. If your lying on your back or side, insert awell lubed finger. If you meet resistence, push out as if you had to goto the bathroom and pushed your finger in at the same time.
6. Experiment. Do some clenches and releases while touching yourselfso that you can feel the changes in your asshole. Try rubbing in tiny,concentric, circles around the rim of you're asshole. Notice whetherthere were any particularly sensitive spots. Don?t feel you have to govery far inside. Just explore and enjoying yourself.

More Anal Sex Materials:

These are hands down the best resources about anal sex:

• Anal Pleasure and Health, the original book on Anal sex--a classic.
• The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. This is both a fantasticbook, and an erousing DVD.
• The UltimateGuide to Strap On book. Learn how to use a strapon for butt sex and more
• Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex. The porn queen-come-sex-ed-mistress gives you a personal tour of butt sex!
• Bend over Boyfriend DVD: This was an award winning DVD teaching women (and illustrating with some hot sexy scenes) how to strap-on a dildo and anally penetrate a partner.
• CrashPad, Erocktavision, Masseuse DVDs. These are adult DVDs with hot strap- on scenes.